Affording to Stay at Home

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Registered: 12-01-2007
Affording to Stay at Home
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Wed, 12-12-2007 - 12:20am

Ever notice that those moms that SAH are usually (although not always) more well off than mothers who WOH? It seems to me, based on what I have seen, that while most women enjoy working their jobs and having a professional life outside of the home, some women prefer to stay home with their kids for a certain amount of time - whether it be 1 year or 10 years - and those women have the option to do so, while other women wouldn't even consider the option because they feel they can't afford it.

Well, it has been my experience that most women who do stay at home have

1) husbands who support the idea

2) Husbands who probably earn enough (or almost enough) to support the family.

3) Enough money to support themselves without working.

**Now I am not talking about people who get help from government agencies, I am speaking about women who do it with no outside help - just seems like most women can't because of financial reasons. So, is being a SAH mom now an "upper class" phenomenon - in general? Of course there are many SAH moms that are middle class, but if they chose to have paying jobs, they'd probably move right back up into that higher income bracket.

Blythe

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:57pm
How many posters have already chimed in about their award-winning car guys, that work on their cars or that are related to them?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:00pm
Which opinion would that be?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:00pm
But her point seemed to be that it wouldn't be possible to find an apartment in a nice neighborhood (highish SES) for a reasonable price (affordable on a 100k salary in addition to her mortgage). That simply isn't the case in many areas.

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Registered: 03-27-2000
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:02pm
What started this whole thing was Gr8teful not being willing to live in an apt for fear it would affect her children's upbringing.
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:02pm

Dh and I talked about this debate this morning.

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Ducky

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Registered: 03-27-2000
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:04pm
That's a shame.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:04pm
Why not?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-12-2005
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:05pm

Correct me if I am wrong, but I did not get the impression that you were stating that you did not want your children to be exposed to any auto mechanics, just that you wanted them to live in neighborhoods where they were exposed to more rocket scientists than auto mechanics.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:06pm
The point might be that your opinions about the "status" of car mechanics reflect prejudice and bias, not objective reality. The point might be that your opinions about what constitutes success, happiness, and what really matters in life are narrow and limiting. The point might be that there are dozens and dozens of ways to live life happily and meaningfully, and that you may actually be limiting your children's future happiness because of your failure to imagine more than one path toward life success.
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Registered: 03-27-2000
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:07pm
It doesn't make a difference.

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