Affording to Stay at Home

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Registered: 12-01-2007
Affording to Stay at Home
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Wed, 12-12-2007 - 12:20am

Ever notice that those moms that SAH are usually (although not always) more well off than mothers who WOH? It seems to me, based on what I have seen, that while most women enjoy working their jobs and having a professional life outside of the home, some women prefer to stay home with their kids for a certain amount of time - whether it be 1 year or 10 years - and those women have the option to do so, while other women wouldn't even consider the option because they feel they can't afford it.

Well, it has been my experience that most women who do stay at home have

1) husbands who support the idea

2) Husbands who probably earn enough (or almost enough) to support the family.

3) Enough money to support themselves without working.

**Now I am not talking about people who get help from government agencies, I am speaking about women who do it with no outside help - just seems like most women can't because of financial reasons. So, is being a SAH mom now an "upper class" phenomenon - in general? Of course there are many SAH moms that are middle class, but if they chose to have paying jobs, they'd probably move right back up into that higher income bracket.

Blythe

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:15pm
You're on a roll today.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:15pm
It's based on your posts indicating that you would find certain professions and paths beneath your children and not something that you wish for them to become. I can't figure out why being a successful auto mechanic is beneath anybody.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:17pm
I was a teenager and my parents brought me.
I really don't think I am missing out. I have been to many places in the U.S. and would of course, like to go to some again but if we are planning a vacation, we would be looking more for the Caribbean or areas out of the U.S.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:18pm
"Indicate" covers a lot of ground, much of it entirely fictional.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:19pm
Fair enough.
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Registered: 07-12-2005
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:21pm

Or, she may be thinking that she does not expect her neighbor, whether a rocket scientist or an auto mechanic, to teach her child about happiness and what really matters in life. It may be that she thinks that she teaches her child those things, regardless of where she lives. It may be that she thinks the neighborhood she chooses impacts her child's development only in specific areas: the value the child holds for education, the types of careers her child considers/chooses, the lifestyle to which her child aspires, and the spending habits her child develops. If those are the only areas in which one feels that the neighborhood impacts the child's upbringing, then those would be the only things one considers in deciding

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:22pm
Please state where I did any such thing.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:23pm

My children are still young so we will be doing things with them but I am not interested in seeing many things that I know you have mentioned before. If they wanted to do something, we wouldn't hesitate to take them.

My parents never took me into the city but I did get to see other cultures as we traveled many places. I would take the Caribbean over the city anyday!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:23pm
I thought you said that you want your children aiming "higher" than being an auto mechanic and that you opined that auto mechanics are people with little education, no community interests, and no interest in culture. If I have misunderstood you, I am terribly sorry.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:24pm
I'll bet you have, or have had,

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