All this talk of financial contribution

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All this talk of financial contribution
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Thu, 07-29-2004 - 6:37pm
has me wondering. Personally we don't look at money as mine and his. We have all joint accounts. Neither of us has to check with the other on purchases. We buy what we need, when we want to. I don't get razzed for buying clothes, nor does he.

I've made a 6 figure income for the past 10+ years. My husband has in the past, but, he is now taking time off to stay home with our twins while I work flat out for the next 2 years. I won't make him beholdant to me because I'm earning more than he, anymore than he would, or did with me. In fact the only people in our home who have their own accounts are our twins (college fund and savings/trust fund).

I just don't get the "my money/your money" mentality. I don't get using "my" money for a vacation, or "his" money for a car. Its all our money in our house...

Just wondering how it works in your house:-)


MM, B&E

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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 4:13pm
OMG, I had a blast as a teenager!

I wouldn't trade those years, my college years, my early twenties for anything different.

I agree. With these examples of what they consider "fun", I would have been miserable & unhappy in those years from 13-25 or whatever.

I'm glad they had fun, I'm glad that is what they wanted to do. As it should be.

Paige

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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 4:14pm
Ita. Paige
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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 4:22pm

Good grief.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 4:34pm
"It would have been a "waste of precious time" to me. That is what I said. Talking about myself." ...... No, actually you said:......"Yes, waste of precious time was always the line I'd say". Which never indicated yourself specifically. It definitely was a line that sounded general. That's what I was responding to.

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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 4:37pm
What is your definition of "party", if it isn't getting together with friends and socializing?
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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 4:37pm
My situation is a little different. I was adopted and found my birth father about 9 years ago. We have become VERY close. When we met, he was divorced and I have a half brother who is about 8 years younger than I am. First of all, I don't think that if he died I would have any legal right to anything he owed because we have never had a blood test to determine that I am his child. And his name was not on any of my adoption paperwork. So, he and I discussed the fact that if he wanted me to have anything, he would have to have a Will that laid it all out.

None of this matters anymore anyway because this past January he got married. He married a wonderful woman who makes him SO happy. I am certainly not going to inherit anything now unless he has specified in his Will that my half brother and I are to get anything. Even if I weren't adopted, this would be true. And you know what? I agree with you. WHO CARES! If he wants my brother to have anything, he will make a Will that states it.

Couldn't all of these issues be solved with a Will? Even if inheritance $ is put into a joint account, can't you have a trust set up in a Will that states that all of your children to get a certain amount of $ in trust when you die? This question isn't addressed to you in particular. But I am sure some of the attorneys around here can answer, if it hasn't already been answered.

Tracy

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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 4:41pm
Hey, I tried e-mailing you through your IV profile (not that you have a profile, but it let me send an e-mail), but it said that e-mail addy you gave was invalid.....e-mail me if you would.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 4:45pm
It's just the drinking that you don't like?

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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 4:45pm
Actually you said: "Never interested in it, just a waste of time, IMO." You never indicated "your" time or said "my" time. I was reponding to the fact that you thought it was a waste of time in general.
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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 4:48pm
How do you know you would be miserable with my type of "fun" when you don't even know what that is?

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