All this talk of financial contribution

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All this talk of financial contribution
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Thu, 07-29-2004 - 6:37pm
has me wondering. Personally we don't look at money as mine and his. We have all joint accounts. Neither of us has to check with the other on purchases. We buy what we need, when we want to. I don't get razzed for buying clothes, nor does he.

I've made a 6 figure income for the past 10+ years. My husband has in the past, but, he is now taking time off to stay home with our twins while I work flat out for the next 2 years. I won't make him beholdant to me because I'm earning more than he, anymore than he would, or did with me. In fact the only people in our home who have their own accounts are our twins (college fund and savings/trust fund).

I just don't get the "my money/your money" mentality. I don't get using "my" money for a vacation, or "his" money for a car. Its all our money in our house...

Just wondering how it works in your house:-)


MM, B&E

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Registered: 12-10-2003
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 4:48pm
I can only go by what you write. If you want me to get your point you need to be more specific. I'm not a mind reader.
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Registered: 12-12-2002
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 4:50pm
*I* do feel it is a waste of time, which is why I never did it.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 4:55pm

How do you know the life that she and I led as teenagers wasn't fun if YOU don't know what it was other than we didn't do the college-type parties?

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 4:57pm
It's not "teenage -crap".

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Registered: 12-12-2002
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 5:00pm
Whatever...I never said I was morally superior for ANY reason.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 5:01pm
It sounds to me that she is not the type to be attracted to events where there are large crowds of people. Personally, the bigger the party the better IMO. My dd1 sounds alot like Paige. Early out of university and into teaching, a good student whose idea of a good time was an evening with a couple of close friends (or hanging out at the library!). My dd was never one for large groups. She always preferred quiet intimate gatherings. She is an outgoing kind of girl, but simply prefers small groups. I had zero problems with her as a teenager. She spent most of her evenings at home and invited her friends over. She never went anywhere that I didn't know exactly where she was and how to reach her. She attended a couple of parties (with lots of people)and came home early. Simply not her cup of tea. Nothing wrong with it. Dd1 would say that partying is a waste of her time too.
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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 5:03pm
I stated about myself. I can't be any more clear than that.

Paige

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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 5:04pm

And you aren't morally superior or emotionally more mature (necessarily) because you did wait to marry and did socialize more as a teen and young adult.


I don't think the point was that Missy or Paige are morally superior for not 'partying' as teens.

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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 5:04pm
I don't think it is about being morally superior.

I know it isn't for me.

It is just we all as humans have things that do interest us and things that do not.

Difference in personalities. Like you & I have discovered we have huge differences in personalities & takes on life in general.

Paige

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Registered: 07-19-2004
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 5:05pm
Sure, I'll do it.

It may be later this evening. I'm waiting on my dh to arrive home right now.

Thanks, Paige

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