All this talk of financial contribution

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All this talk of financial contribution
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Thu, 07-29-2004 - 6:37pm
has me wondering. Personally we don't look at money as mine and his. We have all joint accounts. Neither of us has to check with the other on purchases. We buy what we need, when we want to. I don't get razzed for buying clothes, nor does he.

I've made a 6 figure income for the past 10+ years. My husband has in the past, but, he is now taking time off to stay home with our twins while I work flat out for the next 2 years. I won't make him beholdant to me because I'm earning more than he, anymore than he would, or did with me. In fact the only people in our home who have their own accounts are our twins (college fund and savings/trust fund).

I just don't get the "my money/your money" mentality. I don't get using "my" money for a vacation, or "his" money for a car. Its all our money in our house...

Just wondering how it works in your house:-)


MM, B&E

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Registered: 07-19-2004
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 5:48pm
Not for me. I hold no disdain for it for anyone other than me.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 5:50pm
No, I don't believe getting knocked up automatically makes one responsible, but I think with some people, like myself, it does.
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Registered: 07-19-2004
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 5:53pm
Sounds like fun. I'd like to be in a small gathering where wine, appetizers & junk food will be served where we can chat about our favorite magazines, fashion, celebs & tv shows

I'm no Betty Crocker/Martha Stewart type of gal. I couldn't make a pie crust if I tried or dry flowers for a wreath (unless you count the ones in what was once my flower garden).

Your post was a hoot!

Paige

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 5:54pm
I never once considered keeping my maiden name, however, it was utterly unpronouncable and got misspelled and screwed up all the time, I was kind of glad to be rid of it.. LOL.
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Registered: 08-19-2003
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 6:15pm
Very good points.
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Registered: 08-19-2003
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 6:20pm
Xena??!! OMG I am LMAO right now!

We've both got brown hair but I'm nowhere near her size (and I'm nowhere near as intimidating!) :)

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 6:23pm
Perhaps if I didn't like my maiden name, I may have felt differently LOL. It's really an identity thing for me. I don't think every woman *should* keep her maiden name, but taking on a husband's surname is a practise I truly don't understand.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 6:26pm
No, it's a separate issue, period. Just ask a lawyer.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 6:28pm
Why? This is an inheritance. It would be dh's and then the kids regardless of whether or not we're married. It's something separate. It has nothing to do with our marriage. Yes, dh could choose to leave it to me but that would be just cheating the kids and I'd never ask him to do that.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 6:29pm
Dh would sing sophrano if he blew this much money no matter where it came from. I'd consider it highly irresponsible and I'd let dh know that.

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