Allowances and chores?
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Allowances and chores?
| Wed, 07-02-2008 - 1:44pm |
When do you think it is too early?
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I can understand not having allowance linked to chores. Linking them makes it something like a salary for a job you can "quit" if you decide you don't want the salary,
We have a board in our house.
while I can see what people are saying with regards to allowance and direct chores fine.
Man I would hate to be the spouses of your children
what is thta supposed to mean?
"I find it more relaxing to get things done on my own then having to nag one of my kids to take out the trash, or do the dishes, i can easily get them done myself, so why bother asking my kids to do it. "
How does that teach them to become adults? I like to cook by myself, but I don't do it every day. I teach my kids how to cook, so they will be able to do it when they are adults and live away from our house. Same for running a house, doing laundry or cleaning up. Some things are easier to learn, true- but sometimes they figure out a better and quicker way.
" my husband doesn't do any chores either, and i don't expect him to do it. He works hard enough to provide for the family, why make him come and clean?"
Um, because he is part of the household?
" my husband doesn't do any chores either, and i don't expect him to do it. He works hard enough to provide for the family, why make him come and clean?"
Um, because he is part of the household?
Umm because he is working two jobs, one of them is starting his own company, with long hours, and we hardly see him during the week. You think it's reasonable for a man to come home and cook and clean? If you do wow, that's totally messed up!
How does that teach them to become adults? I like to cook by myself, but I don't do it every day. I teach my kids how to cook, so they will be able to do it when they are adults and live away from our house. Same for running a house, doing laundry or cleaning up. Some things are easier to learn, true- but sometimes they figure out a better and quicker way.
Look it doesn't matter what they grew up with, my husband grew up with no chores in the house, yet, when i met him, he knew how to do his own laundry, clean, and cook. In fact my husband is a culinary chef! He didn't learn it from mommy, he learned by doing it on his own! Now I on the other hand grew up as slave in my parents house, I watched my sisters and cleaned my basement. Yes, i like a clean house, but it doesn't mean I like it. I grew up learning how to cook, and my husband who had zero chores as a kid cooks better then me. I say let kids be kids, and when they are on their own they learn how to fend for themselves. My parents threw me out of the house with no guidance. When I met my husband I didn't know how to cook properly, in fact my husband taught me how to cook, and clean properly. now I am awesome at it, yet, I grew up cookign and cleaning as a kid. I think at the age of 31 I am a pretty descent adult!!
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