Allowances and chores?

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Allowances and chores?
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Wed, 07-02-2008 - 1:44pm

When do you think it is too early?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2003
Fri, 07-11-2008 - 9:04am
first it wasn't direct at you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2003
Fri, 07-11-2008 - 9:07am


Umm it is totally reasonable.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Fri, 07-11-2008 - 9:24am

So you are saying that you do ALL of the household stuff and your DH does none?

You mow, weed, trim, turn the compost, wash the cars, get the oil changed, pay the bills, invest the money, plan vacations, plan meals, grocery shop, cook, make lunches, clean up, pick up, do the laundry, vacuum, scrub the toilet and wash basins and tubs, organize the photos, garden, dust, pick up after him and the kids, call the repairmen, paint the house when needed - inside and outside, replace light bulbs, replace the electrical switches, decorate, clean up after supper, buy the kids clothes, inventory the kids clothes, make sure your kid has a present to take, plan birthday parties, plan, shop and execute a bbq, grill, find the babysitter, pay the babysitter, make the beds, change the towels, take out the trash, take out the recycling, take out the compost, take out and bring back the bins on garbage day ....

He doesn't have to do anything?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 07-11-2008 - 10:08am


How is it reasonable, you would tell your husband to clean when he gets home at 9-10 or 11 pm at night? That's like telling your wife, hey you had a long day at work, here are the dishes in the sink for you to do. Yet, you were the one at home all day and couldn't do the dishes? Totally unreasonable. Maybe that's why I've been married for 12 years, because I don't demand he do all the work, even though I am the one at home all day long! Think about it for a minute, and if it still makes sense to you ,wow, I feel for your husband!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-11-2008 - 10:12am
You've just depressed me. No wonder I need a vacation.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 07-11-2008 - 10:12am

But aren't there SOME household tasks he does? does he empty the trash if he sees it's full,

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-11-2008 - 10:13am
What if you and your DH both WOH FT?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-11-2008 - 10:14am
My DH does iron his clothes, if they need ironing. I don't iron anything of my own or the kids, so that's one thing he does do.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 07-11-2008 - 10:22am

I only iron in the summer b/c I wear alot of wrinkly stuff in the summer - but I never iron in the winter LOL


 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Fri, 07-11-2008 - 10:22am
I'm wondering what people are/aren't considering "chores". Like if I'm cooking dinner and I ask DH to take the trash out to the dumpster and set the table while I'm getting that done - are those chores?
I mean, it's not like I'm asking him to come home from a long day at work and go Merry Maids on the place, but they ARE household tasks. Everyone in the household needs to participate in some way.


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