When do you think it is too early?
<How is it reasonable, you would tell your husband to clean when he gets home at 9-10 or 11 pm at night? That's like telling your wife, hey you had a long day at work, here are the dishes in the sink for you to do. Yet, you were the one at home all day and couldn't do the dishes? Totally unreasonable.>
I think you are missing my point.
You mow ~~yes~~
turn the compost~no compost to turn, and we have no room for compost~~
wash the cars~~No way, never washed a car~~
I have been married for almost 8 years thank you very much.
Sandi--Mommy to Ryan 7/24/07
Yes I do. I look at it this way: if he was single (w/wo kids), he would have to work those 2 jobs and still take care of the kids (if any) and the house/yard. Everyone who lives at my house contributes to the dirt and mess so everyone is responsible for cleaning up said dirt and mess. Everyone eats so everyone contributes to the meal, whether it's cooking, setting the table, clearing the table, grocery shopping, putting the groceries away, putting the clean dishes away, filling and running the dishwasher, cleaning the kitchen (including the stove, the counter tops, the floor, etc.) or washing the dishes/pans that don't go into the dishwasher.
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
Wow, that's quite a list.
<No I am not a maid!! If I wanted to be a maid I would go work for a maid company, I don't look as taking care of the household duties as being a maid!! Maybe you do but I don't!! >
so does he do any household chores.
I've been married for 35 years and yet from the first day of our marriage, we have shared the household tasks and the raising of our children. Dh was the one who gave our children their first baths (starting with the 2nd, it became one of our family traditions). Even when he worked 3 jobs (didn't last long, thank God), he also shared in the running of the family. Even when I was a sahm/wahm and homeschooling, he did his share. Neither one of our work status at any given time in our marriage meant that either one of us could opt out of our family responsibilities.
As for the historical spit of work/family, that didn't occur until the industrial age. Up until then, all family members worked and work occurred at home.