Am I Alone Here? I SAH but I want to WOH
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|Thu, 06-19-2003 - 12:07am|
I have been away from this board for awhile and even then I mostly just lurked, but I was always struck by some of the extreme opinions. Women who had to work were given a little slack, but those choosing to work sometimes got a pretty hard time. I am here to say that were it not for the fact that this is a pretty bad time to look for a job, and even then I would have to make a significant amount to pay for childcare, I would definitely be doing some sort of work outside the home.
So, do I fall into the "selfish mother, only thinking about herself at the expense of her children" category or does it even matter how I feel? I feel I am on the other side of the choice issue, I am home, but wish I could be working. I don't resent my children or take my frustration out on them in any way, but this is not enough. But should it be?
There may be some out there who feel I am only thinking about myself (which is ridiculous), but where do people get the notion that once we become mothers how we feel and what we want doesn't matter anymore. Do I deserve some fulfillment for myself, not at the expense of my family, but for my own peace of mind?