Am I still a SHAM???

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Registered: 04-15-2007
Am I still a SHAM???
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Tue, 07-10-2007 - 1:49am
Well August 28th is "D" day for me, I will offically be going to school full time, I have been going part-time and taking classes online thus far. I have been a full time SHAM for 3 almost 4 years, my DD is 6 and is going into first grade, my DS is 2 1/2 and come August 28 he will be attending a mothers day out program 5 days a week. My classes are three days a week. Last year he went to a mothers day out program 2 days a week. The new program that he will be attending you could go either 2, 3 or 5 days a week, and because of future class schedules for me I went ahead and enrolled him in the 5 day program because I don't know what days my classes will be on next semester and the following semesters. I am feeling guilty about the 5 days because I am supposed to be a SHAM. I know that this is a great program, his teacher this past year has her DD's there and said that it was better than where we were at (where she teaches). The one he went to last year is where my DD went for preschool and is through our church and the new school is also through a church, just not ours. The hours are 9 to 2:30. DS loves school and has asked all summer when he can go to school and see his friends, so I don't think that he will mind too much. I really feel strongly about getting my education, which I am doing backwards..............kids then school, but that's how the cookie crumbled. I will still be available to attend parties and events at my kids schools and be involved in PTA, but am I still a SHAM, and should I feel guilty having my DS go to school 5 days a week, I know the two extra days that I will not be in school, I will have plenty of homework, but I still feel guilty. FYI I am going into elementary education K-4, so this will allow me to be home when my kids are and have the same schedule. I don't know if this is really a debate topic, but I am interest in hearing what mom's from both sides of the fence have to say, as I have been both SHAM and WOHM. Thanks for reading!!!

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 7:15am

congrats on continuing your school work. I don't know why you're stressing about this. Your son likes the program and his little friends. You get to attend your classes AND have time for homework. AND it's only 4.5 hours per day.

Carole

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 7:22am
Sounds like a great arrangement. Not quite sure what a SHAM stands for (I think you meant SAHM: Stay At Home Mom).
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Registered: 05-14-2006
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 8:22am

The general rule of thumb for this site is:

SAHM-does not have outside paid employment.
WOHM-has outside paid employment
WAHM-has paid employment but works at home.

By that definition you would be a SAHM but I think that someone who is going to school full time would fit more into the WOH catagory because their schedules would be similiar.

Unless there is some kind of award for carrying the label SAHM (and if there is someone owes me because I was one for 12.5 years and never got it) I see no reason get too worked up over the label.

Unless you are putting your child in a bad environment which it dows not sound like you are there is absolutly nothing to feel guilty about.

BTW, my DD2 graduated in May with her EC-4 degree.




Edited 7/10/2007 8:25 am ET by texigan-again
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Registered: 01-10-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 8:44am
Sounds like a SHAM to me ... but you probably also fit the description of a SAHM.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:27am
You're still a SAHM. And what is there to feel guilty about?
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Registered: 04-15-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:39am
Yes.............that is what I was supposed to type SAHM, I was tired!!!! :)
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Registered: 04-15-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:43am
Congrats to your DD!! I can't wait until I finish, I probably only have 3 semesters of classes then my year of student teaching. Are you in Texas???
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Registered: 04-15-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:44am
Sorry one o'clock in the morning, I was tired, and I don't usually go back and check for typos when I am posting, have to do too much of that for school!!!
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 1:22pm
I would say neither. You are a student. And I think you should be very proud of yourself for taking the plunge to ft classes! No guilt!

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 4:31pm

I agree with the previous poster: You're neither - you're a student.





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