Another SES issue.
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|Tue, 05-13-2003 - 7:04pm|
he asked, "mom, why was my first school all by itself?". i wasnt sure where he was going with this. i thought maybe he meant physically, as it is tucked back in a neighborhood. he said, "you know, when i went there, i never heard the kinds of things i heard at "elementary school #2". what he meant was, he never heard the filth, he heard in the second school. i probably need to put on my flameproof panties, but my answer to him was, "oh, those were all doctors and lawyers kids at school #1". there were innercity kids bussed in, but the percentage was not as high as in school #2 which was right downtown.
now let me explain my answer before the onslaught. school #1 was in a very affluent neighborhood, where i worked in the cafeteria, while my children were still too young to stay home alone, allowing me to be home when they were. when i finally went to work full time, because school #1 was not in our district, or should i say we werent living in its district, i chose to put my son in the "open school" mainly because it fed into a middle school with a wonderful reputation. the children at school #1 were very sheltered, and the children at school #2 were more street smart than i will ever be, and had seen more ugly than i probably will ever see as well, therefore, they were more "in your face". because ds2 was more sheltered, it was not easy for him to adjust.
i dont have much guilt over how i chose to raise and guide my children, but this is probably the one issue i have big time guilt over. i could have put him in my own neighborhood school, which was more sheltered, but it fed into a terrible middle school, and my choice really was, pay now, or pay later, and i chose to pay now. he hated school #2, and still talks about it.
what is your take on this? how would you answer the question keeping in mind you would be caught by surprise, as i truly didnt realize it was as tramatic as he is letting me know now.