Anything wrong with stuff?

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Anything wrong with stuff?
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Wed, 04-14-2010 - 11:06am

Often MSAH state that the reason mother work is for "stuff"

If there anything wrong with that?

I don't think so, as long as someone is not doing anything illegal or immoral to acquire that stuff I don't see a problem.

The first half of our marriage we had to count every penny. The last few years there are very few limitations on getting what we want. (it has much more to do with my DH's changing job status than my SAH/WOH status). I like it a lot better now.

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Wed, 04-14-2010 - 11:53am

LOL on the last bit. I do sometimes meet people, and this is really not a SAH/WOH issue in my mind, who consume wildly and seem to be stuck in a life of endless work to pay off the installments on a bloated material lifestyle.

Thing is that you can find that kind of living above one's means at any income level and among both dual-WOHP families and those who have a SAHP. The lower middle class family that keeps having to refinance the CCs because they just HAD to have XYZ is no different really than the tycoon who is sailing his yacht around in the hope of escaping the repo man. Whether either family has a SAHP is also quite irrelevant.

But, yeah, stuff within reason, comfort and security, why people should forego those is quite beyond me as well. I also do not comprehend people, especially those with incomes high enough to make it difficult for their kids to get loans/grants, who would rather have a SAHP than money for their children's educations.

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Wed, 04-14-2010 - 12:09pm
I think that people buying things they cannot afford would fall under the immoral mentioned in my post.
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Wed, 04-14-2010 - 12:14pm
I admit I have a problem with acquiring just to acquire. There are people who always have to have the latest and greatest and newest, whether it is the newest phone or other electronics, the newest kitchen appliance, new clothes all the time, whatever. And for some, that is all they talk about, what store they are going to, where they got the best deal on something they probably didn't need anyway, etc. It generates a lot of waste, and it fuels the whole Madison Avenue "the one who dies with the most toys wins" attitude. I find that whole mentality on the edge of immoral when there are so many people struggling to exist without the basics in life, and when our planet is slowly being buried under the "stuff" we had to have yesterday but is choking our landfills today.
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Wed, 04-14-2010 - 12:31pm

We don't really disagree, but many people seem to think it is a human right to run up those credit cards (and to be fair, the banks are usually only to happy to reinforce that view).

I am always reminded of dd when she was about 3. She had just started watching commercial TV and was mesmerized by the ads. She would come running to find me and then announce, "mommy, I NEEEEEEED a . It used to make me laugh, but also led to long and frequent discussions of "need" vs. "want." She got it, but it seems that many adults with access to credit have not quite gotten it.

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Wed, 04-14-2010 - 12:55pm

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Wed, 04-14-2010 - 1:30pm

Goods points, excessive stuff is bad.

The posts that brought the question to my mind usually seem to be of the feeling that anything that they don't have is excessive. That I do not agree with.

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Thu, 04-15-2010 - 1:21am
I don't think there's anything wrong with it. We can't all have the same type of life with the same meaning attached to it. What matters to you is what matters. I don't care so much about lifestyle but I want to be comfortable, I also want to enjoy what I do, I want "stuff" and I'm sure I have more stuff than I need. But that's okay, it doesn't change what is important about my life. Someone could peek in my window and say "that's wrong" but I will try not to return the favor.

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Thu, 04-15-2010 - 5:37am
I hope not because right now I'm driving around with a spare set of treadle irons in the back seat of the car and there's a grungy Eldredge chainstitcher sewing machine head sitting on my dining room table waiting for a deep spa treatment (not just sewing machine oil, but some Liquid Wrench and Evaporust, too). Should take much to break it loose and get it sewing again, but it had sat idle and neglected for so long the rubber belt from the motor to the hand wheel pulley actually petrified (I had to use a hack saw and pliers to get it off because it hardened into place.)

It'll look like this once it's cleaned up and shiny (although there's a better than even chance that the decals are long gone. On the other hand, it's so filthy, they could simply be hiding under the grunge, so I'll need to lay in a supply of 0000 steel wool and cotton scraps for cleaning. hmmmm, better check my supply of engine degreaser, too.

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Thu, 04-15-2010 - 8:35am

"Stuff" isn't the issue, it's people's attitude towards "stuff" that is.


The Bible says "For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil." (1 Timothy 6:10) This is often misquoted as "money is the root of all evil," which is probably why some feel conflicted about their attitudes toward wealth.


But nowhere does it say that having money, or the things money can

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Thu, 04-15-2010 - 8:40am
ITA

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