Anything wrong with stuff?

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Anything wrong with stuff?
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Wed, 04-14-2010 - 11:06am

Often MSAH state that the reason mother work is for "stuff"

If there anything wrong with that?

I don't think so, as long as someone is not doing anything illegal or immoral to acquire that stuff I don't see a problem.

The first half of our marriage we had to count every penny. The last few years there are very few limitations on getting what we want. (it has much more to do with my DH's changing job status than my SAH/WOH status). I like it a lot better now.

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Registered: 07-12-2005
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 12:40pm

I am completely happy acquiring stuff that brings my family pleasure or makes our life easier or more enjoyable.

The thing that drives me batty is when people acquire stuff that they think impresses others and then pretends that their stuff somehow makes them superior. Ugh. Other than that, I assume that people buy stuff because they need it or it gives them pleasure, and I see nothing wrong with that as long as they can afford it.

Oh, and I agree with the person who said they do not understand foregoing a college education. When people on this board talk about WOHM's working for materialistic reasons, and include college funds and vacations in the same list as expensive toys, it blows my mind. The vacations, maybe, if the type of vacation has no educational value, is not a family vacation and occurs with such a frequency that it goes beyond a second honeymoon or much-needed rejuvenation. Otherwise, I fail to see how wanting to take your children outside of their own geographical area falls into the category of materialistic. And I really do not get how wanting your children to have the means to go to college is materialistic.

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Thu, 04-15-2010 - 12:44pm
Yes, good point about the travel. My parents always traveled and also traveled with us, even when they were young and not very well off. During broke times, it simply meant traveling on the cheap. Then again, my dad always travels on the cheap. Anyway, we saw renaissance art in Italy, the gothic cathedrals of France and many other things. It has stood me in good stead forever after.

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Registered: 01-09-2009
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 3:07pm

Yep, I think that pretty much sums it up.

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Ducky

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 3:16pm

I agree but I think that there can be some bias against the "rich".

They buy "Things to bring pleasure and/or make life easier" but others perceive the other two reasons.

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Registered: 01-09-2009
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 3:38pm

I would agree

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Ducky

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Registered: 03-08-2010
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 3:40pm
That's quite a judgement on your part.
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Registered: 01-09-2009
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 3:42pm
What is?

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Ducky

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Ducky

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 3:44pm
But someone does not have to blab about it in order for others to judge them.
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Registered: 03-08-2010
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 3:47pm

Saying this "Unfortunately, those who have more stuff for the *wrong* reasons are the ones out there blabbing about it. Those who have it for the *right* reasons, are not."

Maybe in YOUR experience but please don't judge about ALL people. I know many people from many different types of wealth and I do not share that idea at all.

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Registered: 01-09-2009
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 3:48pm
Again, I don't disagree.

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