Anything wrong with stuff?

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Anything wrong with stuff?
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Wed, 04-14-2010 - 11:06am

Often MSAH state that the reason mother work is for "stuff"

If there anything wrong with that?

I don't think so, as long as someone is not doing anything illegal or immoral to acquire that stuff I don't see a problem.

The first half of our marriage we had to count every penny. The last few years there are very few limitations on getting what we want. (it has much more to do with my DH's changing job status than my SAH/WOH status). I like it a lot better now.

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Registered: 03-08-2010
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 4:46pm
True. ALL assumptions as you really do not know how people live or how they get things unless they tell you.
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Thu, 04-15-2010 - 4:51pm
You know, some of the wealthiest people that I've known were not only *discreet* about what they could afford, but they have been the ones who would buy their clothes at places like

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Thu, 04-15-2010 - 4:52pm
These are the type of people that become wealthy because they are cheap :)
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Thu, 04-15-2010 - 4:53pm

That would be a personal judgment everyone has to make for themselves. When they talk to others is that person "always" & "only" talking about their stuff & what they bought & where they went on vacation? Or is a person who tells their friends about something they bought & are happy about, but also talks about other things in the world and cares about the other people in the conversation.

I think we've all been in both kinds of conversations. Example: Merely mentioning that you got a new car is not "blabbing" or "bragging." Mentioning to everyone everywhere & always leading the conversation back to that subject to make sure everyone can hear every detail about it and they don't want to talk about other subjects (except other things they bought) would be blabbing & bragging.

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Thu, 04-15-2010 - 4:59pm

I have a colleague like this, every conversation works around to the latest article he has published, the great review he got by some eminent expert, etc, etc. This in a department full of people who publish and get reviewed by eminent people.

I am also amused by people who need to sign every letter, even if they are writing their child's teacher about a mistake on a spelling test, "Dr. So and So," or Mary Jones, PhD.

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Thu, 04-15-2010 - 4:59pm

Not necessarily.


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Registered: 12-01-2009
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 5:00pm

sometimes... and sometimes they're just very smart about their money...and sometimes they don't see the need to overspend just to overspend...

my favorite donor at the theater is a lovely gentleman and his wife who are the quietest plainest people on the planet and who own a gazillion dollars worth of lakefront real estate and as well as a few other homes and you would never. ever. know it. But what I love about this couple is they always ask about me and my family first -- inquire about our upcoming vacation or offer to have us up to the lake --they didn't get rich by being cheap but I believe they got and maintained their wealth by being pracitcal and modest and by investing in their communities in ways large and small.

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Thu, 04-15-2010 - 5:04pm

sometimes they're just very smart about their money...and sometimes they don't see the need to overspend just to overspend...


they didn't get rich by being cheap but I believe they got and maintained their wealth by being pracitcal and modest and by investing in their communities in ways large and small.


Yep, that's been my experience, too.

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Registered: 02-24-2010
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 5:04pm
Yes that's what I was talking about. Except he does it with accomplishments instead of things. They are annoying too of course!

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief

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Thu, 04-15-2010 - 5:08pm
Annoying and sometimes risible because a lot of these people are showing off either things or accomplishments that aren't really all that special among the audience they are trying to impress.

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