Anything wrong with stuff?

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Anything wrong with stuff?
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Wed, 04-14-2010 - 11:06am

Often MSAH state that the reason mother work is for "stuff"

If there anything wrong with that?

I don't think so, as long as someone is not doing anything illegal or immoral to acquire that stuff I don't see a problem.

The first half of our marriage we had to count every penny. The last few years there are very few limitations on getting what we want. (it has much more to do with my DH's changing job status than my SAH/WOH status). I like it a lot better now.

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Registered: 10-22-2009
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 9:19pm

No,

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Registered: 10-22-2009
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 9:24pm

ITA~

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Registered: 10-22-2009
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 9:51pm

What i read in that post is ppl aquire things for the wrong reasons,

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Registered: 10-22-2009
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 9:51pm

Me too and Iam thrifty.

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Registered: 10-22-2009
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 9:59pm

If you are talking about ppl who have to tell you and show you how much money they have spent,

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Fri, 04-16-2010 - 3:01am
I hope your dh is ok.

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Fri, 04-16-2010 - 3:02am

"To be completely honest 2 out of 10 times the bragger normally is up to debt in creadit card bills."

You nailed that one.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Fri, 04-16-2010 - 6:58am

"We all have to decide for ourselves what makes us happy as mothers/ parents, if sitting at home makes you miserable no matter rich, middle or poor, then you should probably not be doing it. "

I think there is more to that. I don't think most people are either miserable or happy, there is life between the two. I know I would be happier as a wohp. Significantly happier, in that wohp fit my personality much easier than sahp. I don't think the happiness of the mother is *paramount*. I do think it is part of the equation. However, because of the *needs* of my children and my ability to meet those needs I can't be a wohp.

BTW, "sitting at home" isn't really what a sahp does. ;)

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Registered: 07-12-2005
Fri, 04-16-2010 - 7:26am

When I meet women who complain about having to work, but have a lot of toys, I always assume it is the DH who wants the stuff.

Let's say my DH wanted me to SAH. Perhaps he wanted to stay in his old job, which required so much travel that I would have had to handle all of the pick-up and drop-off, all of the sick days, all of the day care closing days. Perhaps he also wanted to stay in our old house, which was an hour from my job. Under that set of circumstances, I would not have been able to maintain my full-time job. If that happened, while it would have been a choice for my family, I would have felt that I "had to" stay home, because it is not my preference, but circumstances created by my husband dictated it for me.

If that woman you know works to pay off credit card bills or car payments or vacation home mortgages that her husband racked up without her consent, I would consider it fair for her to say she has to work.

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Fri, 04-16-2010 - 7:33am
that's right. It was totally a guy who bought all those sewing machines in my sewing room. Totally. I just work to keep them in thread and fabric. Yeah. That's it!

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