Anything wrong with stuff?

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Anything wrong with stuff?
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Wed, 04-14-2010 - 11:06am

Often MSAH state that the reason mother work is for "stuff"

If there anything wrong with that?

I don't think so, as long as someone is not doing anything illegal or immoral to acquire that stuff I don't see a problem.

The first half of our marriage we had to count every penny. The last few years there are very few limitations on getting what we want. (it has much more to do with my DH's changing job status than my SAH/WOH status). I like it a lot better now.

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Fri, 04-16-2010 - 7:53am

True very good point,

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Fri, 04-16-2010 - 8:04am

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Why would you assume that? I know a handful of women who complain about working but THEY are the materialistic ones in the couple. My neighbor, who is always complaining about having to work, was just telling another neighbor and me that she's getting rid of her current $40K car soon b/c she doesn't like the color (silver). She wants to get the newest model even though her car is fully loaded and it's going to run her at least $45K. Of course, this is the same neighbor who bought the $40K car only two and half years ago b/c the car she had before that, also only a few years old, needed a $2500 A/C repair. Rather than not have the A/C until she could afford to fix it, she went out and bought a brand new car $40K.

Her dh? Very low maintenance. I could give you other examples, including the $5K coffee/espresso machine she "had to" have when remodeling her kitchen a few years ago. Seriously? $5K????? Yet she doesn't have enough fluid cash saved to replace the A/C in her car.

In fact, I sometimes think her comments about wishing she could stay home are actually based on some sort of old notion that mothers should "want" to stay home, not that she actually does want to. I have another neighbor who used to say the same thing - "I'd stay home in a heartbeat if I could" but if you knew her personality, you'd know that wasn't true. She is very successful and thrives on the challenges of her career.

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Fri, 04-16-2010 - 8:29am

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Fri, 04-16-2010 - 8:30am

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Fri, 04-16-2010 - 8:35am
<Maybe they are proud of what they have accomplished in life to be able to do and buy the things they do. Not everyone who talks about what they have purchased is trying to impress others. And many people are jealous of what others have. (again ALL in general). >

I am proud of where DH and I are now (we eloped when I was 19).

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Fri, 04-16-2010 - 8:39am
Plus, I really hope I never start measuring my accomplishments by what new doo-dads I can afford to buy for my house. That seems rather crass.

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Fri, 04-16-2010 - 8:42am


My previous boss had a salary of over $1M per year.

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Fri, 04-16-2010 - 8:45am

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Fri, 04-16-2010 - 9:10am
OOOOHHH!!!! I am FINALLY chic!!!!!! It took 45 years.
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Fri, 04-16-2010 - 9:14am

See?


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