AP, BF, & Cosleeping, etc.
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|Wed, 06-25-2003 - 1:03pm|
I'd like to put my 2 cents in, since the topic isn't dying out, and there's a grand amount of subversive, unncessesary guilt being thrown around.
At this point, we have no intention of co-sleeping with any of our future children. I cherish the privacy & space my DH & I have in our bedroom & in our bed. I also have a sleeping disorder & DH is a very heavy sleeper so it would not be feasible, safe, or reasonable to do so; so we won't.
At this point, I feel that I will want to breastfeed, however, if either the child doesn't want to, or can't, or I don't want to when the time comes, or can't, I won't. Formula feeding is acceptable to me, it will give DH the opportunity to bond through feeding, and will allow for more freedom for all of us.
At this point, we plan to both be working from home when we have a child. We believe it is healthy for a child to see & healthy for both parents to have other persuits & interests & talents outside of solely child care & child entertainment. If we want to have an evening/afternoon out without children, we'll hire a babysitter. Children don't need to be secured to the hip of their parents 24/7 in order to be well adjusted & attached.
My point being, that no matter what "method" of parenting you choose, no one is better than any other, so long as your children are fed, clothed, cleaned, sheltered, and LOVED.
Frankly, I'm quite tired of the suggestion that a parent must do everything possible to be a SAH, breastfeeding, co-sleeping, child-centered parent in order to be a good parent; and that anything less than the above list is in someway selfish or wrong, and should be corrected, lest you produce dysfunctional children. Its bunk. Everyone does what they feel is right & best to care for their children, and no two children are the same; no two parents are the same; so no way ONE type of child rearing & family structure will work for everyone.