Are mega hours ok if you have a SAHP?
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Are mega hours ok if you have a SAHP?
| Wed, 06-18-2003 - 11:00am |
This is kind a a spin off from the equalty and careers thread. I have been reading many posts from the thread about SAHPs who have spouses who work lots of hours. Is it OK for one spouse to work 80 hours a week (assuming it's his choice), as long as there is a SAHP with the kids? Is it OK to to be a workaholic or career driven and come home at 10pm and leave the house at dawn because you have career goals that require those kinds of hours? Is that fair to the kids and ultimately fair to the relationship between dad and the child to assume the position that as long as mom is home, dad can be gone all the time?
Personally, it would make me crazy to have my dh at work 100 hours a week, regardless of my employment status. Crazy because I wouldn't want to have to handle everything that pertains to home and kids and crazy worrying that the kids were not developing a close relationship with dad. There is something to be said, IMHO, for dad beng the one to show up at some of the parent meetings, events, etc.
My bro commutes to NYC daily. He leaves at 4:30am and doesn't get home til 8-9pm every night. He misses just about everything having to with his kids and does not even get to eat one meal with them during the week. That would make me nuts.
Is it ok to have an absent parent if the other parent is a SAHP?
Susan

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while we were on vacation with my parents last month, my dad gets up very early, and my dd did too. when she saw pop-pop was up, she crawled into the bed with my mom. my dd is almost 20yo!! my mom loved that dd wanted to scoot in there. i think it is sweet as she doesnt get to see her gran much, and wanted to go back to sleep, and there was a cozy spot opened.
Christi
None of us let our children set their own bedtimes. We simply allow our children some input, be it verbal, be it physical cues, whatever, into what that bedtime is.
I set my child's bedtime. However, I do so after observing how she reacts to said bedtime. If I put her to bed at 8pm and she's up by 5:30 every morning .. I'll move it to 9pm. If I put her to bed at 8pm and I have to try 2-3 times to get her up in the morning (as you said yourself you have to do for one of your kds) then I'll move it to 7pm.
Hollie
Hollie
we say sometimes, and you have all five of us in bed every night with not ever getting "alone time" or having sex. that is bizarre. if you kept it at what it is, it would be easy to understand!
Besides, wouldn't that $3000 be better spent on one's kids?
Hollie
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