Are mega hours ok if you have a SAHP?
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Are mega hours ok if you have a SAHP?
| Wed, 06-18-2003 - 11:00am |
This is kind a a spin off from the equalty and careers thread. I have been reading many posts from the thread about SAHPs who have spouses who work lots of hours. Is it OK for one spouse to work 80 hours a week (assuming it's his choice), as long as there is a SAHP with the kids? Is it OK to to be a workaholic or career driven and come home at 10pm and leave the house at dawn because you have career goals that require those kinds of hours? Is that fair to the kids and ultimately fair to the relationship between dad and the child to assume the position that as long as mom is home, dad can be gone all the time?
Personally, it would make me crazy to have my dh at work 100 hours a week, regardless of my employment status. Crazy because I wouldn't want to have to handle everything that pertains to home and kids and crazy worrying that the kids were not developing a close relationship with dad. There is something to be said, IMHO, for dad beng the one to show up at some of the parent meetings, events, etc.
My bro commutes to NYC daily. He leaves at 4:30am and doesn't get home til 8-9pm every night. He misses just about everything having to with his kids and does not even get to eat one meal with them during the week. That would make me nuts.
Is it ok to have an absent parent if the other parent is a SAHP?
Susan

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Do you REALLY not see what a hypocrite you are?
Heck, you think it's selfish to work "just for things" even if it means you're only away from your kids for 40 hours.
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And, I am sorry to say, that you ARE judging all working moms. You have no idea what their finacial situation is. So it's just your best guess based on looks and things and what they have that you make your judgement, isn't it. You see a WOHM with a beemer and assume that she puts $ before her child.
and is anyone else around here feeling a sudden desire to go lounge on a fake beach?
But since she as a SAHM has the luxury of any little material thing her heart desires, since they only need 60% of their income, and she doesn't have to work for it, she judges those who want some or all of the material things she has, because they have to actually EARN it?
THIS IS THE HEIGHT OF HYPOCRISY. I'll just divorce DH and remarry for a whole lotta money, so I can be a SAHM and not be a dirty WOHM who dares to put her work ahead of her children.
Mygarnetboy, congratulations. You have truly p7ssed me off.
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