Are mega hours ok if you have a SAHP?
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Are mega hours ok if you have a SAHP?
| Wed, 06-18-2003 - 11:00am |
This is kind a a spin off from the equalty and careers thread. I have been reading many posts from the thread about SAHPs who have spouses who work lots of hours. Is it OK for one spouse to work 80 hours a week (assuming it's his choice), as long as there is a SAHP with the kids? Is it OK to to be a workaholic or career driven and come home at 10pm and leave the house at dawn because you have career goals that require those kinds of hours? Is that fair to the kids and ultimately fair to the relationship between dad and the child to assume the position that as long as mom is home, dad can be gone all the time?
Personally, it would make me crazy to have my dh at work 100 hours a week, regardless of my employment status. Crazy because I wouldn't want to have to handle everything that pertains to home and kids and crazy worrying that the kids were not developing a close relationship with dad. There is something to be said, IMHO, for dad beng the one to show up at some of the parent meetings, events, etc.
My bro commutes to NYC daily. He leaves at 4:30am and doesn't get home til 8-9pm every night. He misses just about everything having to with his kids and does not even get to eat one meal with them during the week. That would make me nuts.
Is it ok to have an absent parent if the other parent is a SAHP?
Susan

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I've made a post or two where I commented on your husbands schedule. But I wasn't judging him. I was using his situation as a comparison to the situation of a WOHM.
Anyhoo ...
Hollie
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and, again, ime people are more likely to express their desires than their finances. when someone tells me they'd like to sah though they woh, i never jump to the conclusion that they are too stupid or immoral to do what they obviously want to do, but i instead presume that there is a compelling reason (a real finacial need) that is too personal for them to feel comfortable disclosing that makes them do so.
Moreover, I didn't "score" a work-a-holic DH. I met, fell in love with, and married a man who happens to have a staunch work ethic. I would be married to him if he made $40,000 a year or $4,000,000. C
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