Are mega hours ok if you have a SAHP?
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Are mega hours ok if you have a SAHP?
| Wed, 06-18-2003 - 11:00am |
This is kind a a spin off from the equalty and careers thread. I have been reading many posts from the thread about SAHPs who have spouses who work lots of hours. Is it OK for one spouse to work 80 hours a week (assuming it's his choice), as long as there is a SAHP with the kids? Is it OK to to be a workaholic or career driven and come home at 10pm and leave the house at dawn because you have career goals that require those kinds of hours? Is that fair to the kids and ultimately fair to the relationship between dad and the child to assume the position that as long as mom is home, dad can be gone all the time?
Personally, it would make me crazy to have my dh at work 100 hours a week, regardless of my employment status. Crazy because I wouldn't want to have to handle everything that pertains to home and kids and crazy worrying that the kids were not developing a close relationship with dad. There is something to be said, IMHO, for dad beng the one to show up at some of the parent meetings, events, etc.
My bro commutes to NYC daily. He leaves at 4:30am and doesn't get home til 8-9pm every night. He misses just about everything having to with his kids and does not even get to eat one meal with them during the week. That would make me nuts.
Is it ok to have an absent parent if the other parent is a SAHP?
Susan

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Is that what he tells you? And you believe him?
Edited 7/3/2003 10:05:02 PM ET by trip59
I feel sorry for you. I think it's rather sad that you can't comprehend someone in that field doing it to help people and not just for the paycheck. And I'd get a new planner with more than his commissions in mind. C
He really ought to get you out there in front of his clients, he does it because he genuinely likes helping people - that's rich. If that's the case, maybe he ought to work in a shelter rather than in an industry centered around making money and building wealth. There's nothing altruistic about it, unless you consider making $$$ for himself and others a worthy cause.
Besides it's apparent when someone wants to give opinions and then cry foul when asked to back up such claims, they themselves aren't here to debate. Beating your head against a wall? I'm guessing there is a better chance of a wall getting the points made here.
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