Are mega hours ok if you have a SAHP?
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Are mega hours ok if you have a SAHP?
| Wed, 06-18-2003 - 11:00am |
This is kind a a spin off from the equalty and careers thread. I have been reading many posts from the thread about SAHPs who have spouses who work lots of hours. Is it OK for one spouse to work 80 hours a week (assuming it's his choice), as long as there is a SAHP with the kids? Is it OK to to be a workaholic or career driven and come home at 10pm and leave the house at dawn because you have career goals that require those kinds of hours? Is that fair to the kids and ultimately fair to the relationship between dad and the child to assume the position that as long as mom is home, dad can be gone all the time?
Personally, it would make me crazy to have my dh at work 100 hours a week, regardless of my employment status. Crazy because I wouldn't want to have to handle everything that pertains to home and kids and crazy worrying that the kids were not developing a close relationship with dad. There is something to be said, IMHO, for dad beng the one to show up at some of the parent meetings, events, etc.
My bro commutes to NYC daily. He leaves at 4:30am and doesn't get home til 8-9pm every night. He misses just about everything having to with his kids and does not even get to eat one meal with them during the week. That would make me nuts.
Is it ok to have an absent parent if the other parent is a SAHP?
Susan

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Not at all. I'm saying when I don't agree with my "friends" I tell THEM, not strangers on the internet. That's why we're friends, because I can voice my opinion honestly TO them....not ABOUT them to someone else. It's a lot classier to voice disagreements to the people with whom you disagree than to whine about them incessantly where they don't know about it and can't defend themselves from the insulting, demeaning picture you paint of them.
And while you're busy trying to paint me as a SAHM-hating WOHM, that doesn't wash, given my long history of defending SAHMs on this and ALL the other boards I post on--given your self-admitted history of stalking me around these boards, you have no excuse to claim you don't know I vigorously and vocally defend SAHMs. if you claim you can know where I live based on my posts on other boards, you cannot subsequently claim ignorance of my posting history wrt the defense of SAHMs. At least not without completely destroying what little credibility you have left.
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