Are mega hours ok if you have a SAHP?
Find a Conversation
Are mega hours ok if you have a SAHP?
| Wed, 06-18-2003 - 11:00am |
This is kind a a spin off from the equalty and careers thread. I have been reading many posts from the thread about SAHPs who have spouses who work lots of hours. Is it OK for one spouse to work 80 hours a week (assuming it's his choice), as long as there is a SAHP with the kids? Is it OK to to be a workaholic or career driven and come home at 10pm and leave the house at dawn because you have career goals that require those kinds of hours? Is that fair to the kids and ultimately fair to the relationship between dad and the child to assume the position that as long as mom is home, dad can be gone all the time?
Personally, it would make me crazy to have my dh at work 100 hours a week, regardless of my employment status. Crazy because I wouldn't want to have to handle everything that pertains to home and kids and crazy worrying that the kids were not developing a close relationship with dad. There is something to be said, IMHO, for dad beng the one to show up at some of the parent meetings, events, etc.
My bro commutes to NYC daily. He leaves at 4:30am and doesn't get home til 8-9pm every night. He misses just about everything having to with his kids and does not even get to eat one meal with them during the week. That would make me nuts.
Is it ok to have an absent parent if the other parent is a SAHP?
Susan

Pages
I think where you get into trouble is trying to say that one situation is "ideal" or better over another. In my situation, having a sahp is our ideal. In other families having dual working parents is ideal. It's all about the family and what works for them.
Things get nasty and people get defensive, that's just life.
Still it's nice to know I'm not the only one in this situation how out there!
How are you feeling? C
Good = one parent being away from home 60-80 hours a week for first 10 years of child's life, but child likely to be able to see both parents after that, go to Ivy League college and not have to support parents' retirement.
Bad = Dual WOHP where one of them (or only the mom?) works exclusively for vacations and luxury cars.
Is that right?
<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />
<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />
PS T-ball starts at age 6, not age 10.
<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />
Pages