Are mega hours ok if you have a SAHP?
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Are mega hours ok if you have a SAHP?
| Wed, 06-18-2003 - 11:00am |
This is kind a a spin off from the equalty and careers thread. I have been reading many posts from the thread about SAHPs who have spouses who work lots of hours. Is it OK for one spouse to work 80 hours a week (assuming it's his choice), as long as there is a SAHP with the kids? Is it OK to to be a workaholic or career driven and come home at 10pm and leave the house at dawn because you have career goals that require those kinds of hours? Is that fair to the kids and ultimately fair to the relationship between dad and the child to assume the position that as long as mom is home, dad can be gone all the time?
Personally, it would make me crazy to have my dh at work 100 hours a week, regardless of my employment status. Crazy because I wouldn't want to have to handle everything that pertains to home and kids and crazy worrying that the kids were not developing a close relationship with dad. There is something to be said, IMHO, for dad beng the one to show up at some of the parent meetings, events, etc.
My bro commutes to NYC daily. He leaves at 4:30am and doesn't get home til 8-9pm every night. He misses just about everything having to with his kids and does not even get to eat one meal with them during the week. That would make me nuts.
Is it ok to have an absent parent if the other parent is a SAHP?
Susan

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Andrea...
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Strangely enough, where I come from, we don't slam our friends to ANYONE; when we disagree with our friends, we tell our FRIENDS, personally, to their face. we're funny that way.
I know a lot of information about a lot of people that post at PS, from reading their posts, from looking at their profiles and from their websites. That doesn't mean I'm stalking them!! You obviously think a lot of yourself to draw the conclusion that b/c someone remembered a trivial fact about you that they're stalking you. Get over it.. and yourself! A.
Andrea...
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Andrea...
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Why? there are, quite literally, hundreds. Who has that kind of time, let alone that kind of interest? Except you, of course.
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Assuming your little theory is true......if a child doesn't remember anyway, then it doesn't matter who watches him. Because...... he's not going to remember.
Andrea...
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