Are nannies as good for kids as parents?
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Are nannies as good for kids as parents?
| Mon, 04-06-2009 - 4:13pm |
At lunch, I was walking at a park near my office.
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Yeah, toddlers and preschoolers are different animals for sure. They usually get a bit more physical sense by about three, maybe a bit before.
And then they get stupid again when the teenaged hormones kick in. My kids got zero broken bones when they were small, despite my butt's presence on the park bench a lot of the time. Since turning about ten, I think we are up to five broken bones and several dislocated joints.
i get that having had little ones once upon a time. And yes, they did get followed around to keep them safe. But, frankly, I didn't chatter with them a whole lot because they were there to play, to figure things out on their own, to "chatter" with other children.
However, once they were beyond the toddler stage and much more capable on their own, I would bring a book and read while watching them.
eileen
I do not think that a chance encounter is enough to go by.
The mothers were more hand on than the nannies during the few minutes that you observed but at other times of the day the nannies my be more hands on and the mothers less.
Also it is not nannies or parents. The children with nannies will still spend quite a bit of time with their parents.
Previous post on this forum have shown me that I am less hands on than many other parents. My behavior in the park may have been more like the nannies than the mothers. I do not think a child spending a few minute in the park playing without an adult following their every move is a cause of developmental issues.
That must really be an amazing park where everyone acts like a stereotype... At the parks we used to frequent, I remember seeing active and inactive mothers and fathers. I also remember seeing active and inactive nannies and babysitters.
I even remember seeing some of the active ones being the inactive ones the next day and vice versa. Everyday it was something new.
The parents, of course, have more invested. However, that doesn't mean a nanny is going to ignore and neglect the children in her/his care and it doesn't mean that the nanny isn't going to provide perfectly wonderful superior care.
I don't think it damages a kid. I actually think it's GOOD for a kid to spend some time without a parent following them around ready to cushion them in the event they MIGHT get a boo boo.
I once knew a mom who told the after school program her son attended to make sure they didn't let him run... because running is dangerous.
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