Are schools fair to working parents?

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Are schools fair to working parents?
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Fri, 03-16-2012 - 2:38pm

I said parents because I think that working dads miss out even more than the moms do when it comes to school activites.

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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 12:20pm
jamblessedthree wrote:
Then reconcile your own thoughts about trying to reason with a child, Your schedule is not your child's to understand, And if you're going to tell a child you're going to be there but don't show up it isn't ridiculous to see tears build up either... I don't agree with your thoughts in general here.

Why wouldn't my schedule (in general) be for my child to understand?

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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 8:48am
Yea, And there are papers to grade, lesson plans to prepare, Sometimes they can't return an email until late at night.. But I think teachers go into the profession prepared for all that too. And as a side they deserve so much more than what they're paid because of all they do......

 

 

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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 7:58am

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Wed, 03-21-2012 - 5:52pm
I find myself saying "I don't know. When and where is it?" a lot.

The Girl: Mom, are you coming to my band concert?
Me: I don't know. When and where is it?

The Girl: Mom, are you going on the GS sleepover?
Me: I don't know. When and where is it?

The Boy: Mom, can we go to the OSU ballgame?
Me: I don't know. When and where is it?



I was glad to see The Girl's realism and maturity recently when I missed one of her band performances to go to a voluntary work event. I asked her if it was okay if I went to the work thing instead of her concert and told her that I'd be wililng to give up the work thing if she wanted, but that I really wanted to go. Her reply "It's just Christmas music mom. And you go to my band stuff all the time. and work band concessions all the time. Go to your thing."

After the face, we were discussing it again, and I mentioned that if The Boy had been playing that night too, that I probably would have skipped the work thing. She said "Oh, of course. He's only had one other concert, so you need to go see him. You've seen about 24087 of my concerts."

She's such a good kid.

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Wed, 03-21-2012 - 5:37pm
I don't think anyone is talking about telling a child "I'll be there." and then not showing up. I'm certainly not. I'm talking about a child assuming a parent will be there because 1) the parent has always been at everything or 2) the parent has stated in the past that "sure i'll come to all your events" or 3) because the child just think that's what mommies do or 4) because the school talks about it so much they assume mommy will be there or 5) becasue all the other mommies are coming so mine is too. The child has expectations that mommy will be there and when mom tells her "I can't make be there. I have a meeting." or "I can't be there, I'll be in Chicago." or "I can't be there; I'm chaperoning your sister's filed trip", it freaks the kid out. Even if that "I can't be there" is stated the first time mommy ever hears about said event.

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Wed, 03-21-2012 - 5:14pm

I don't understand what you are referring to.

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Wed, 03-21-2012 - 5:02pm
Sure they are.. And there are times my kid asks me a yes or no question and I respond with a maybe, that often means yes but not always.

 

 

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Wed, 03-21-2012 - 4:58pm
Then reconcile your own thoughts about trying to reason with a child, Your schedule is not your child's to understand, And if you're going to tell a child you're going to be there but don't show up it isn't ridiculous to see tears build up either... I don't agree with your thoughts in general here.

 

 

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Wed, 03-21-2012 - 4:35pm
lifespeachy wrote:
The words maybe and probably are interchangable for many kids.

Good point.

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Wed, 03-21-2012 - 4:34pm

I would think that it's a combo of school, children and parents.

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