Are schools fair to working parents?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2011
Are schools fair to working parents?
99
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 2:38pm

I said parents because I think that working dads miss out even more than the moms do when it comes to school activites.

Chelsea

"Minds are like parachutes. They only function when they are open."

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-23-2001
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 8:54am
You're not alone, My kids have never expereiened a grandparent breakfast or extended family coming to any school ceremony, One grandparent is deceased and the others live far away.. When I helped sometimes a close friend or dad did fill the void but not all kids were signed up for it either, The breakfast started right as kids were coming in for their school day and the other kids had unpacking and normal morning jobs to do anyway so it really didn't disrupt that flow there.

 


 


iVillage Member
Registered: 05-02-2004
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 11:56pm
I have to wonder if the PTO is made up of SAHP who run the meetings during most people's work hours. That was the case at the school my daughter used to go to. And that school also had lots of award ceremonies, (monthly) seasonal shows, talent shows, play, graduation, and field trips that parents had to drive for. Also parents were expected to come in and volunteer weekly. I found most of these things hard to go to because I had two toddlers and they were NOT welcomed at all, meaning I had to find a sitter, which was hard because I couldn't afford it, and my family lived on the other side of the continent.

Grandparents day would be sad for us too. 3000 miles is a long way to come for a day program. I hope that they bused in some grandparents from a senior center or such and encouraged kids to make friends with a grandparent who didn't have grandkids in the area. Probably not though, they would all have to go through background checks first to make sure they are not perverts or such....

We home school now. So when grandparents come to visit, we don't have school, just lots of fun field trips!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-29-1999
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 8:02pm
It must be school specific. Our school only has 2-3 things a year during the day that parents are invited to. Hmmm, I don't think I've been to anything his year, but maybe that is because my DD is in 7th grade and it is no longer cool to have parents come to school for stuff.

If you want there to be things in the evening, why don't you volunteer to run it? Maybe that's the problem. If PTOs or room parents are planning the things, maybe only SAHP have volunteered so far.
Avatar for mom34101
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 6:28pm
I'm pretty sure schools already know this, since the teachers are wohps too. Sahps are the minority these days, so I doubt the schools are scheduling activities to cater to them--it's more likely about the teachers. Frankly, if I were this parent, I would be more concerned about why there are all these events in the first place. My kids never had "large amounts of activities" during the school day or in the evenings that parents were expected to attend. Maybe the real answer is for this school to stop having so many events and start spending that time on school work.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-22-2009
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 5:58pm

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2011
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 5:36pm
I would estimate that it's about 2-3 times a month, depending on what they have going on. From different programs to monthly award ceremonies, I think they overdo it. Our conference times are even offered only in the afternoon, and they send the kids home early for a week to accomplish that. That makes it even harder for working parents.

I bet grandparents day could be pretty sad, what if the kid is like me who's grandparents were all deceased by the time they were in school? Do they let family friends fill the void if no grandparents are available?

Chelsea

"Minds are like parachutes. They only function when they are open."

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2011
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 5:34pm
I understand that people work different shifts, but that goes both ways. We all make compromises in our jobs, teachers are no different. They went into the field knowing that there would be times when they have to work extra hours, I find that no different than my job when I have to work Saturdays or later hours during certain times of the year.

Chelsea

"Minds are like parachutes. They only function when they are open."

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-23-2001
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 4:54pm

How regular are the school activities that parents get invited to?

 


 


iVillage Member
Registered: 08-22-2009
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 4:27pm

Pages