Are there many SAHM's these days?

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Are there many SAHM's these days?
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Wed, 06-16-2010 - 2:27pm

With the economy being so crappy, I'm just wondering if there are very many SAHM's anymore.

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Wed, 06-16-2010 - 5:59pm
Lol. I remember being told once by a gung-ho wohp who doesn't post here anymore that I wasn't a "real" wohp since I didn't work when my kids were babies. I'm now beginning my 8th year of being a "fake" wohp. ;)
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 06-16-2010 - 6:52pm

but the life of a SAHM is not looking for a job, the unemployed's is.

 

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Wed, 06-16-2010 - 6:54pm
my favorite, what kind of person you are if your house has a yellow door! ;)

 

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Wed, 06-16-2010 - 7:16pm

The life of the unemployed is not looking for work that is something that takes up some of their time (if they are actively looking).

Not much different from a SAHP spending part of their time volunteering, exercising etc.

No where in the definition of SAHP does it say the title is lost unless 24/7 is spent taking care of the kids.

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Wed, 06-16-2010 - 8:40pm

This is one of those things that could really be in the eye of the beholder. For some people, being temporarily unemployed means that they consider themselves to be a SAHP until finding a new job. For others, they may not consider being temporarily unemployed the same as being a SAHP. They may put it in the same category of someone who is on maternity leave (in the sense that they intend to return to work as soon as possible).

Personally, I don't automatically equate an unintended and undesired interruption in employment with a long-term commitment to NOT working for pay. In letter they are the same; in spirit they are not. So whether one considers a person to be an unemployed and/or SAH parent depends on whether one considers it necessary to have both letter and spirit or just letter.












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Registered: 08-22-2009
Wed, 06-16-2010 - 9:13pm

Maternity leave is different in that they are employed.

I don't think that one has to have a long term commitment to not working for pay to be considered a SAHM.

It is describing a temporary situation. It is fluid and can change from day to day.

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Wed, 06-16-2010 - 9:40pm
I thought you said one has nothing to do with the other?

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Registered: 06-24-2008
Wed, 06-16-2010 - 10:24pm

I am a SAHM and have been for the last three years. It wasn't the plan, but my twins were born very premature and we made the decision when they were in the hospital that I would SAH. Dh makes enough for us to make it on his salary alone, so we were lucky. We are always thinking about his job security, but so far so good. Our biggest concern is that without me working we aren't saving as much for the kids college, and with six kids thats a big issue. Now that we are used to one salary, when I start working again my whole salary will probably go into the college fund.

There are lots of SAHMs in my area, but it's safe to say it's an economically advantaged area.

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Wed, 06-16-2010 - 11:21pm

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Of course it's different. I never said that it was the same thing as maternity leave. I was only pointing out a conceptual similarity between two situations in which a person's intent is to resume reporting for duty at a place of employment ASAP.

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That is true, but some people might feel that they have to have made a (mental) commitment to not working for pay in order to consider THEMSELVES a SAHM, as opposed to considering themselves a working individual who merely happens to be in between jobs at the moment.

I'm not saying they are not a SAHM.
I'm not saying they are a SAHM.
I'm saying the applicability of the label will depend on the perception of the unemployed person.












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Registered: 06-24-2008
Thu, 06-17-2010 - 12:10am
I agree with you. If I was out of a job temporarily and looking I'd probably say I was AH while I was out of work. But since I quit with the intention of not working for several years, I call myself a SAHM. Even when I start looking for a job again, I'll be a SAHM until I find one because that's how *I* view it.

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