Are there many SAHM's these days?

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Are there many SAHM's these days?
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Wed, 06-16-2010 - 2:27pm

With the economy being so crappy, I'm just wondering if there are very many SAHM's anymore.

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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 8:51am

having read it again, specifically the last paragraph, the OP is asking how SAHMS do it and if anybody has given up SAH because of the economy we're in.

 

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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 8:59am
considerdIf I knew someone with a part-time job who considered herself a SAHM because she ddidn't have to work, she just chose to, I would consider her confused at best, delusional at worst. Likewise the woman who works only when the kids are at school, the kids are sleeping, whatever. You have a job. For the dad out of work I think it would depend on his self-perception. If he were spending all of his time networking, applying for jobs, whatever, I would consider him "between jobs" because that sounds like how he sees himself. If he says, well, OK, looks like I am home for awihile and began to assumme more of the domestic and chldrearing roles, I would start seeing him as a SAHD "for now" anyway.
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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 9:03am

so judging is ok here?

 

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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 9:05am
how many X IRL do you hear, i'm a stay at home mom?

 

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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 9:08am
Good point about school. I am out of the house 10-15 hours a week for that, in the evenings and for part of it my little ones are asleep. I still consider myself a SAHM because I am home all day with them. If I had a job working part time during the daytime hours I might think of it differently. I know another mom in my program who like me calls herself a SAHM, both of us used to work and quit when we gave birth. When I start interning it'll be for no pay, I still won't consider that a job because it's a requirement and a part of my schooling. But I think I'll still be a SAHM? Or I guess more like in some sort of transition between SAHM and WOHM.

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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 9:21am


Just out of curiousity, if your classes were during the day, would you still consider yourself a SAHM?

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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 9:43am

I don't know. I still wouldn't be working, so I wouldn't be a WOHM. I guess it'd be like a hybrid. I think it worked it into my mind this way because the first year after they were born I was strictly at home. Most of the second year of their life I had classes but I didn't leave the house until they were tucked in bed. It was like being a SAHM where you go volunteer at the elementary school but only while your kids are napping, and you have a sitter just to stay at the house for naptime.

Then it moved to me being out of the house for maybe 5 hours a week that they were awake, then 10 hours a week for a couple semesters, and this semester just kind of worked out oddly and it's more like 15 hours. But nothing much changed about our daily routine, so it still feels the same. When I start my internship it'll probably feel more like a PTWOH even though it's part of my schooling and I'm not going to be paid. I'll be working 15-18 hours a week and have one evening I'm taking classes.

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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 9:53am
If the person in question were a male, say a Dad who woked graveyard shift as a police officer, would you picture him as a SAHD? What is it about working non-traditional hours that somehow makes a job not count?
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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 10:00am

Would you continue to sah if your dh lost his job?

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Registered: 04-16-2010
Thu, 06-17-2010 - 10:05am

I've never understood this.

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