Are we realy that different?

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Are we realy that different?
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Wed, 04-28-2010 - 11:15am

Often SAHMs will talk about WOHM like they are a foreign species and WOHMs do the same talking about SAHMs like they are a foreign species.

Are SAHM and WOHM really that different?

As someone who has done both I don't think so. I did not suddenly change when I returned to the work force or when I again left the work force for a few months.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-27-1998
Thu, 04-29-2010 - 9:56pm
ITA and not just on SAH/WOH militants--I have trouble relating to extremists in just about any cause.
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Registered: 11-22-2000
Fri, 04-30-2010 - 7:28am

Ohhhhh yeah.


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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 04-30-2010 - 10:48am

I agree.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 10-20-2007
Fri, 05-07-2010 - 3:02pm

i think you are right that the differences arise out of perceived perceptions (whoa redundant!) i am a wohp currently on maternity leave w/ my two kids at home and im about to go nuts! i cannot wait to go back to work! i miss adults! i often feel like that makes me a bad mother and that sahp will look at me as less of a person. so mentally i have to justify myself!

personally, i think sahp deserve a friggin medal! this is waaaaaay too hard for me! how the heck do you guys do it all the time w/o knowing there is an end in site? i love my kids so much but i spend my whole day refereeing and saying "no!" to my toddler. it seems like im probably doing this wrong!

so maybe thats a difference. im not an extreme "everyone should woh" mom, but i am an extreme I should work outside the home mom.

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Sat, 05-08-2010 - 1:07am

i think you are right that the differences arise out of perceived perceptions (whoa redundant!)

Heh. I think it must be going around; I described something as a 'tragic tragedy' the other day. glad I'm not the only one it hit ;)

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Registered: 07-09-2010
Sun, 07-18-2010 - 2:08pm

I don't think Sah and Woh are all that different. You can't look at a woman

Polkadotandflipflops

 

 

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Registered: 07-09-2010
Sun, 07-18-2010 - 2:11pm

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 2:34pm

if i continued WOH when my kids were small, i would not have had a sitter come HERE.

 

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Registered: 04-22-2009
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 2:51pm
the difference for me (re: a sitter) was the number of children. It was fairly easy to manipulate when we had one or two in dc, BUT once #3 came -- it was all bets off!
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Registered: 06-24-2008
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 3:16pm
I used to be a fan of daycare centers, in home care not so much whether it was my home or someone else's. Mostly due to my own experiences as a child, and I guess really my bias was against home daycares. In any case, since i've been in school I can't really take my kids to a daycare center at night. We have a sitter who comes here and that has worked out really well for the most part. The biggest problem I am having is they don't last. I don't know if they get bored or the girls I've hired are all too young, but after a while they start messing up, and it seems they don't last more than a year. Then it's time for a new one who will again be committed and on her game.

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