Are working moms stretched too thin?
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| Tue, 06-13-2006 - 2:45pm |
Do you think a mom who works full-time and has kids is stretched too thin?
I was working full-time up till November of 2005. Then I decided that it was all too much. I was exhausted and found that when I did get to spend time with my little guy (he is now 2 1/2) I was very impatient with him because I was soo tired. Also the stress of work often overflowed into my personal life (both with ds and dh).
Now that I have been home for over 6 months, I am finally starting to be more patient and am enjoying my son instead of rushing him along. If he want to take 20 minutes to get into the car - ok, no problem.
So - do you think that trying to juggle work, kids, marriage and all the stresses that come with those things is too much? (I did)
Maybe when my son is older - then I will go back to work and it might be easier because he will be more self-sufficient? Who knows? All I know is that for now, I am enjoying being a SAHM and am glad for the time I get to devote to my son and the lower stress levels (that I believe were very unhealthy for me).
josee

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I think I already answered that. I said I wasn't opposed to using physical restraint, but for me it would be an absolute last resort.
I actually wonder how easy it would be to wrestle a fighting, screaming 2-yr-old into a car seat anyway. I think in another debate pnj said one of her boys was so big at that age, she couldn't even carry him across a parking lot. I think if you're going to use physical restraint, you'd better be 100% confident you will win. I'd rather not get into a tussle like that.
It's hard to say what I would have done in your first scenario, since it's never happened to me, but I might simply have called a friend or my mom and asked her to pick up my older child at school. In your second scenario, I would have simply picked up the obstinate child and carried her to the bathroom. I've already said that I would carry a screaming kid away from the park or another setting (and have done so). My kids are not angels--they were perfectly typical 2-yr-olds.
You're kidding, right?
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<I haven't ever forced a screaming child into a car seat. >
Okay you have never had to force your child into a car see.
>> Said husband would be doing major penance for something like that. <<
Ahhh.. yes... but would you know unless he told you? ;)
Well, you don't expect them to remember. You tell them. "Today, big sister and I are meeting suzy and her mom at the bagel shop and then going to the park. We're sorry you can't go, but you wouldn't get in your car seat last time, so you can't go with us again until I can trust you to do that." Then you come home and tell her about the ice cream cones with the sprinkles.
I know you're dubious about the natural and logical consequences thing, but it has worked great with my kids.
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