Are working moms stretched too thin?
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| Tue, 06-13-2006 - 2:45pm |
Do you think a mom who works full-time and has kids is stretched too thin?
I was working full-time up till November of 2005. Then I decided that it was all too much. I was exhausted and found that when I did get to spend time with my little guy (he is now 2 1/2) I was very impatient with him because I was soo tired. Also the stress of work often overflowed into my personal life (both with ds and dh).
Now that I have been home for over 6 months, I am finally starting to be more patient and am enjoying my son instead of rushing him along. If he want to take 20 minutes to get into the car - ok, no problem.
So - do you think that trying to juggle work, kids, marriage and all the stresses that come with those things is too much? (I did)
Maybe when my son is older - then I will go back to work and it might be easier because he will be more self-sufficient? Who knows? All I know is that for now, I am enjoying being a SAHM and am glad for the time I get to devote to my son and the lower stress levels (that I believe were very unhealthy for me).
josee

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"The way I read her desire not to miss any milestones or any time with her son, ANY amount of time spent WOH would be "stretching her too thin." Do you agree?"
Of course I know that I wont see ALL his milestones. I just want to be able to see a greater proportion of them, and spending more time with him seems to be filling that need.
Maybe you are right. Maybe any amount of time away from my child was "stretching me too thin" when it came to my son, and underneath it all maybe thats one of the reasons I quit. When I read that sentence - made me think. Was "any" amount of time spent WOH too much? Sure. Maybe, FOR ME, in regards to him - it was. And the things I had to do to be able to work (early mornings was just an example), "stretched me too thin". That's why I asked the original question. Wanted to see if others felt the same or not. And from the replies, some women feel stretched too thin and some don't. Not a suprising answer.
Before I had DS - hardly ever stressed at work. When DS came along - different story. Maybe it was the stress of having less time with him, the stress of the time I did have not feeling like not enough - and my mind was elsewhere (like at work) when I was with him.
I am sure some women are better then I am at "shutting" the work part of their brain off when they are home.
No, you did quite fine, thank you very much...and not a single accusation, implication or fabrication on any of my comments!
PumpkinAngel
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Well, in one case you're forcing a child into a seat and strapping her in. In the other, you're simply carrying her away from a bad situation. You can put her down when you get away from it. If those things seem the same to you, as I said, so be it. To me they are different.
And frankly, I'm not even sure I could wrestle a 2-yr-old into a car seat if she was really fighting it, so I'd be reluctant to try even if I thought that was the right way to handle it.
actually, my son goes to Gymboree and we need to be on time and he/we always are. i let him take 20 minutes when we there is not a specific place to be, at a specific time. and since i have quit my job and stay home, there are many more such occasions to let him take 20 minutes. I enjoy that, and I think he does too (less crying, tantrums ect.)
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Right and what are the key words in the phrase as to why you wouldn't ask her?
PumpkinAngel
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