Are working moms stretched too thin?

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Are working moms stretched too thin?
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Tue, 06-13-2006 - 2:45pm

Do you think a mom who works full-time and has kids is stretched too thin?

I was working full-time up till November of 2005. Then I decided that it was all too much. I was exhausted and found that when I did get to spend time with my little guy (he is now 2 1/2) I was very impatient with him because I was soo tired. Also the stress of work often overflowed into my personal life (both with ds and dh).

Now that I have been home for over 6 months, I am finally starting to be more patient and am enjoying my son instead of rushing him along. If he want to take 20 minutes to get into the car - ok, no problem.

So - do you think that trying to juggle work, kids, marriage and all the stresses that come with those things is too much? (I did)

Maybe when my son is older - then I will go back to work and it might be easier because he will be more self-sufficient? Who knows? All I know is that for now, I am enjoying being a SAHM and am glad for the time I get to devote to my son and the lower stress levels (that I believe were very unhealthy for me).

josee

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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:12pm
No, I just think a 2-yr-old is old enough to understand that if you don't get in the car when you're supposed to, you don't get to go next time.
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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:12pm
i guess i dont see the difficulty in picking up a child and putting them in their car seat. my son is 3 and weighs about 38 pounds and it isnt a problem
Jennie
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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:13pm
My 2yo just learned how to talk, so these kind of "lessons" are hardly appropriate. Anything beyond simple cause and effect are still foreign to her, for the most part.
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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:14pm

It didn't happen weeks ago, and you don't rub it in their face.

I'm getting a little tired of being told how cruel I am for answering how I would respond to a hypothetical situation that never happened with my own children, so I'm done now.

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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:15pm
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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:16pm

I think that sort of "punishment" or consequence, I guess you would call it, is totally appropriate for a child of 5 or 6. It IS cruel to do to a 2 year old.

ETA: There's nothing wrong with the "you misbehave so you don't get to go next time".. it's the "make sure said 2yo hears what a great time you had without him/her" part that is the problem.




Edited 6/16/2006 5:18 pm ET by charlesmama1
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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:19pm
They aren't really old enough to understand that. Not unless "next time" happens an hour or so later. But the following day? Or a few days later? No, I don't think they really can remember what they did wrong or understand why they can't go this time.
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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:20pm

And thank you for the welcome... It does seem like a busy place.
What a great way to come up with a user name. I suppose mine would be monkeypumpkinlove

Kathleen

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:23pm
Exactly. For 2/3yos, I use the "if you don't behave were are going to leave right then" method. They don't really understand it in the abstract.
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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:23pm
That almost sounds kinky. :) BTW, Hi, I'm Anne, SAHM to Charles, 6 and Grace 2. I live in N CA.

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