Are working moms stretched too thin?

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Are working moms stretched too thin?
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Tue, 06-13-2006 - 2:45pm

Do you think a mom who works full-time and has kids is stretched too thin?

I was working full-time up till November of 2005. Then I decided that it was all too much. I was exhausted and found that when I did get to spend time with my little guy (he is now 2 1/2) I was very impatient with him because I was soo tired. Also the stress of work often overflowed into my personal life (both with ds and dh).

Now that I have been home for over 6 months, I am finally starting to be more patient and am enjoying my son instead of rushing him along. If he want to take 20 minutes to get into the car - ok, no problem.

So - do you think that trying to juggle work, kids, marriage and all the stresses that come with those things is too much? (I did)

Maybe when my son is older - then I will go back to work and it might be easier because he will be more self-sufficient? Who knows? All I know is that for now, I am enjoying being a SAHM and am glad for the time I get to devote to my son and the lower stress levels (that I believe were very unhealthy for me).

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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:28pm
LOVE those names. Charles was on my top three list, right under Noah (which is what we named our son). Grace is also really lovely.
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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:29pm

Well, I wouldn't necessarily do that the first time it happened, but if it was happening repeatedly, I think I would. Most people here seem to think that wrestling a child into a car seat is fine, and perhaps it is, but it's just not something I would do other than as an absolute last resort. I don't think it teaches the child anything other than the fact that mommy is stronger than she is.

I just read back through the thread, and in retrospect,I probably got a little carried away about saying I'd do this with a 2-yr-old. Jennie's comment about "beyond cruel" set me off, so I'm probably defending this more strongly that I should. I would do it with a 4-yr-old though. I wouldn't brag about it, but I wouldn't feel bad that the 4-yr-old knew that we had a fun time and got ice cream when the reason he didn't get to go was his own misbehavior. I can live with people thinking that's mean. My own mother thinks I'm mean for not taking dd1 her lunch the second time she forgot it at school this year (she gets one freebie), but I'll tell you, it sure worked. She never forgot her lunch again.

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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:32pm
As I just said to charlesmama above, I may be stretching it on the age of when I would actually let the child hear that we had ice cream without her, but I can tell you that when my 2-yr-old wandered off at the mall, she was not allowed to get out of the stroller there until I was confident it wouldn't happen again. She didn't have any trouble understanding that, and once I let her out again, it never happened again. So I don't agree with you that a 2-yr-old isn't capable of understanding that her actions have consequences.
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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:32pm
Thank you :) My father thinks we are royalists.. LOL.
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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:33pm

The point that

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:33pm
I totally agree. ;) I highly doubt anyone here wrestles their child into a carseat unless it has to be done. Although we probably all have different "has to be done" threshholds.
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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:36pm

No, not when you keep misquoting and mis-interpting my posts.


For what seems like the 10th time to you and why you don't believe me when I said it the first time is totally beyond me...but here we go again.....it's not about believing her (I do, as I have said, numerous times)

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:37pm
I would suggest keeping up your businss contacts while you're home, if you can. Having a lot of experience in my field and good contacts really helped me when the time came to go back to work.
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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:39pm

I work part time now....30 hours a week.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:39pm

Very true.


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