Are working moms stretched too thin?

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Are working moms stretched too thin?
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Tue, 06-13-2006 - 2:45pm

Do you think a mom who works full-time and has kids is stretched too thin?

I was working full-time up till November of 2005. Then I decided that it was all too much. I was exhausted and found that when I did get to spend time with my little guy (he is now 2 1/2) I was very impatient with him because I was soo tired. Also the stress of work often overflowed into my personal life (both with ds and dh).

Now that I have been home for over 6 months, I am finally starting to be more patient and am enjoying my son instead of rushing him along. If he want to take 20 minutes to get into the car - ok, no problem.

So - do you think that trying to juggle work, kids, marriage and all the stresses that come with those things is too much? (I did)

Maybe when my son is older - then I will go back to work and it might be easier because he will be more self-sufficient? Who knows? All I know is that for now, I am enjoying being a SAHM and am glad for the time I get to devote to my son and the lower stress levels (that I believe were very unhealthy for me).

josee

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 1:12am
Well I guess we are just going to agree to disagree. Your method worked for you. I guess part of me still doesn't understand what is so bad about forcing your child in their car seat. But it was just an example and I think it is time to be done. It was a good discussion and I appreciate your opinion.
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Sat, 06-17-2006 - 1:38am

Definitly the difference between the 2 kids. What worked for you son so would not work for my 2nd dd, Erica, at that age. Heck at any age. If she didn't want to do something (such as get into the carseat) no amount of restriction, denial of treat next time, etc was going to get her into the carseat. She would simply decide that she didn't want to go to the park or get ice cream the next time. There was no middle ground or "freebies" with her. I had to be firm and very consistant and on my toes to correct the behavior the first time. Else I would be in a power struggle that I couldn't afford to lose. So, yes, I would have "forced" her into the carseat the first time she said no. Fortunately there aren't a lot of children like Erica and I'm very glad that I had only one.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Sat, 06-17-2006 - 1:40am

I think that I posted to the wrong post. I meant my post about Erica and the carseat for your post and I think that I answered to mom34101's post #468.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 06-09-2006
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 9:57am

"There are other options: call someone to get the groceries for you, or put the groceries in the cooler at the store and wait for the child to calm down."

The last comment about putting the groceries in the cooler at the store is a bit out there to me. Wouldn't it be easier to take an extra 5 seconds to pick the child up, put him/her in the car seat and secure him/her?
Also, what cooler are you talking about? The frozen aisle section that's already full?

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Registered: 06-09-2006
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 10:03am
If anything I see that taunting and teasing of the child as something for them to repeat to their therapist when the get older because treating them in that manner, they sure might need a therapist.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 10:19am

Thank you.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 10:23am

I have two children, both boys, 22 months apart, same parents, save environment basically and they each learned the whole understanding action/consequence thing at different ages.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 10:26am

Good luck.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 10:36am

Because I didn't.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 10:40am

Don't you think this also depends on the individual child?


My youngest used to get up at 5.30 every morning for years and years....Until he started kindergarten.

PumpkinAngel

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