Are working moms stretched too thin?

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Are working moms stretched too thin?
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Tue, 06-13-2006 - 2:45pm

Do you think a mom who works full-time and has kids is stretched too thin?

I was working full-time up till November of 2005. Then I decided that it was all too much. I was exhausted and found that when I did get to spend time with my little guy (he is now 2 1/2) I was very impatient with him because I was soo tired. Also the stress of work often overflowed into my personal life (both with ds and dh).

Now that I have been home for over 6 months, I am finally starting to be more patient and am enjoying my son instead of rushing him along. If he want to take 20 minutes to get into the car - ok, no problem.

So - do you think that trying to juggle work, kids, marriage and all the stresses that come with those things is too much? (I did)

Maybe when my son is older - then I will go back to work and it might be easier because he will be more self-sufficient? Who knows? All I know is that for now, I am enjoying being a SAHM and am glad for the time I get to devote to my son and the lower stress levels (that I believe were very unhealthy for me).

josee

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Registered: 09-04-2005
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 2:23pm
I agree to your point. As I stated on one of my other posts - I think we just need to let them know we are there for them if they need us.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 2:24pm

For you? Maybe none.


For me? Numerous.

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Registered: 09-04-2005
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 2:27pm

For me, the needs of my kids will always come first. Do I blame my mom for working when she had to...no, because she only did so when money was tight. But if she had the option, I would be hurt. I am so glad that my mom stayed home especially when I was little. And, I want to do the same for my kids.

I respect your opinion, nevertheless, I have to disagree.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 2:28pm

'Because children should always come first.'


I disagree.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 2:45pm
Would you have preferred your father home, too, or was it OK for him to have a life outside of caring for you?
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 2:47pm
I'm very aware that you keep saying that, but you have yet to post a quote as an example. Although I am thinking that your definition of hostile and demeaning is quite large, since pumpkinangel saying that death, taxes, and the guilt argument are all certainties in life was apparently hostile and insulting in your opinion. I don't see how.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 2:50pm
I'm a SAHM, but I firmly believe that children should not always come first. The family as a whole always comes first. If I were to put my children first all the time, my marriage would suffer, and that would be detrimental to the whole family. So sometimes, my husband is first. Sometimes, I am first.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 2:53pm

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Fair enough, but you put that tone there, not me.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 2:55pm

So you raise your child to adulthood with then being first all the time throughout their life...what happens when they find out about the real world where they aren't the most important person in the world anymore?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 2:55pm

Marriage should come first.


PumpkinAngel

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