Are working moms stretched too thin?
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| Tue, 06-13-2006 - 2:45pm |
Do you think a mom who works full-time and has kids is stretched too thin?
I was working full-time up till November of 2005. Then I decided that it was all too much. I was exhausted and found that when I did get to spend time with my little guy (he is now 2 1/2) I was very impatient with him because I was soo tired. Also the stress of work often overflowed into my personal life (both with ds and dh).
Now that I have been home for over 6 months, I am finally starting to be more patient and am enjoying my son instead of rushing him along. If he want to take 20 minutes to get into the car - ok, no problem.
So - do you think that trying to juggle work, kids, marriage and all the stresses that come with those things is too much? (I did)
Maybe when my son is older - then I will go back to work and it might be easier because he will be more self-sufficient? Who knows? All I know is that for now, I am enjoying being a SAHM and am glad for the time I get to devote to my son and the lower stress levels (that I believe were very unhealthy for me).
josee

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"people who think they are no disadvantages to having two working parents are 100% wrong - because they are. It's a fact and it's a fact because it happened to me. If it happened to me, it can happen to other kids as well."
There can be disadvantages to having two working parents for *some* families. There are other families for which there are absolutely no disadvantages to having two working parents. I can't think of any possible disadvantages to having two working parents that would apply to every single family in the world. It all depends on the individual family dynamics and needs.
I liked having my dad work. I'm going to say something that a lot of you may not like. I may not have the rational for this...but this is a belief. There is no right or wrong in this one. Here goes:
One person has to work...that is obvious. Someone has to pay the bills. I think that person should be the father. He is the man and he should be the provider. Again, I have old-fashioned views. I admire those women who support their husbands...but that scenario would not feel right for me.
My dad was my hero...the man who took care of us and brought home the pay check. I just didn't like the fact that he had to work weekends as well. That made me sad because we all grew so distant from him. Summers were the best for us because my dad would take some time out of his work week to take us to the beach. We were starving for his attention. But that is just because he worked sooo much.
Because sometimes an adult need has a higher priority than a child's need. My DH was rushed to the emergency room three times in the last 8 weeks. That prety much trumped any need that my children had at the time.
Edited 6/22/2006 5:36 pm ET by texigan-again
Edited 6/22/2006 5:39 pm ET by texigan-again
i have a hard time understanding the logic in your last paragraph...how was your dad your hero if all you did was craved his attention and hated that he worked so much? really...............coincidentally,my second grader last year was required to do an oral presentation on who her hero was. she picked her daddy. she and her siblings don't crave his attention,they appreciate him for who he is and what he does with them when he is around.
maybe i'm just not following what you mean.
If your girls are older and you make time for them when they come home from school that's why they are ok with it. I plan to work when my kids are older too and attend school. That way I can have more money to save up for college, take vacations etc.
What concerns me the most is placing a young baby in daycare. I can't imagine leaving my little one in a stranger's care unless I absolutely had no choice.
I had a problem when my mom worked because she worked 12-14 hour days when money was tight. Not only did I do all the chores in the house and missed out on just being a young child but she was always too tired to spend time with us. Again, I don't blame my mother. I love her dearly because she always put us first. I just want to mention...I am currently enduring a high-risk pregnancy. My mom flew over from the Virgin Islands away from my dad to take care of me and fix my meals. She is awesome!!! She didnt have to do that. She put me before her marriage which I didn't expect her to and never asked her to.
I am qualified to make that statement, because I am human being. I am entitled to my own opinion. If you don't like it you can just disagree.
Again, this is the personal attacks that I don't like. You don't even know if I have a PHD in child psychology. So stick to debating and stop bashing.
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