Are you "Anxious Parents"?

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Are you "Anxious Parents"?
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Wed, 11-15-2006 - 8:24am

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Sun, 11-19-2006 - 12:39pm
Thanks. I still have respect for my parents and still think "What would they say or think about this". It's good that they raised me very well but it is bad because I sometimes don't want to disappoint them. I am getting too old for that kind of thinking!
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Registered: 03-27-2000
Sun, 11-19-2006 - 12:41pm

Yeah, well, I grew up in the same type of neighborhood. My parents still live there and are still friends with the same people. While I don't think or have any suspicions that any of those people were sexual molestors, I'm not dumb enough to think that just because I know them all well, that there isn't a possibility that any of them could have been a sexual molester.

Just this year in the Wash DC suburbs (it was in the Wash Post newspaper), there was a man in his 50s/60s who was arrested for molesting the daughter of his best friend when she was a teenager. The families were the best of friends, vacationing together, etc. I think the two men were also colleagues. I don't remember how it came about that the molestation was uncovered, it had been years since it happened to the girl and she may have come forward, but her parents were absolutely shocked. They had NO idea, no suspicions, just could not comprehend that the man they knew and had been friends with for so long, could have been capable of doing this to their daughter. They felt horrified that they had enabled this to happen to their dd b/c they hadn't any kind of idea that he was this type of man, their best friend. It DOES happen....

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Sun, 11-19-2006 - 12:43pm
Sorry to but in. All of our houses are only 1 or 2 away and they will not let a kindergartener off without a parent or guardian.
How do they know who? They ask the first day of school.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 11-19-2006 - 12:49pm
Then there were some of us, who were serious enough and well taught enough to keep out of serious trouble simply because we knew better, not out of fear.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Sun, 11-19-2006 - 12:50pm
In my school district there have been an uproar for years that the kids are getting too much work. My daughter gets a good amount, not alot but she is much more advanced than when I was in school. She is doing work that I did a year or so later.
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Registered: 10-15-2006
Sun, 11-19-2006 - 12:51pm

<< do you think it is more difficult to parent today then it was a decade or decades ago? >>

No. I think it is different, but not more difficult.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 11-19-2006 - 12:57pm
Back in the good old days before the terrorists? Oh wait! There were terrorists back then too, just not in your neck of the woods, so maybe in other places, kids did not grow up in fear of their dads.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 11-19-2006 - 1:00pm
I am guessing that your dh knew those family members well too, he probably even grew up with them.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 11-19-2006 - 1:17pm
Well then, that's not what you've been saying.

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Registered: 02-06-2006
Sun, 11-19-2006 - 1:20pm

Doesnt mean you'd know whether or not they were pedophiles.

My grandmother met, dated and married a man and had no idea he was interested in children sexually. He was a pillar of his community. On the town counsel, mayor at times, was a Mason and something else..an Elk maybe? He was very involved in their church. He was an all around nice guy that neighbors knew they could depend on.

Then he fondled my mother several times when she was 12 years old.

You NEVER know. My mother was just lucky enough that at a time when that normally would have been shushed and she wouldnt have been believed, my grandmother had the b*lls to confront him and then leave him.

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