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| Tue, 02-01-2005 - 2:19pm |
I thought this article was interesting (warning - it is a bit lengthy). . . especially on the heels of the "you look like a mom" thread. While I can completely understand one's desire to remain "attractive" post-kids, some of these women are IMO taking things too far (who deliberately puts on heels if they don't have to while making breakfast?)
If you're in your 30s, you shouldn't try to look like you're in high school. You're not. While we don't need to "let go" of our youthfulness, we also shouldn't desperately try to hang onto it by clawing at it with our fingernails. Whatever happened to aging gracefully?? You may look great in your low rise Sevens, but that doesn't mean you should pair them with a belly bearing top cut down to there.
What do you think of this "trend" of hottie mommies? Can a mom be "hot" without looking like a teenager?
Today, more mommies are hotties, too
By Olivia Barker
USA Today
Irene Slatest, 41, has been wearing basically the same uniform since her 20s: "I'm all about the low-cut , the 3-inch heels, the tight clothes."
But as she fixed breakfast one morning at home in suburban Long Beach, N.Y., her daughter, Victoria, noticed something amiss. Hair, makeup and form-fitting outfit intact and impeccable, Slatest nonetheless stood at the stove in ... fuzzy slippers.
"Mom, you look like a housewife!" Slatest recalls her 7-year-old exclaiming.
"I was like, 'Oh, my God, we can't have this,' " Slatest says. So she finished making eggs in heels.
Mom has come a long way, baby. Of course, she's far beyond the ironed and buttoned-up June Cleaver archetype. But increasingly she's also moving past the soccer-mom look of the '80s and '90s. She pays attention to trends, assiduously avoiding anything pleated, tapered or high-waisted. She indulges in a nip here, a tuck there. She stays fit, even buff.
Mom, it seems, doesn't want to check her sexuality at the picket-fence gate anymore.
" 'Yummy mummies' we call them in Australia," says Anna Johnson, the author of "Three Black Skirts: All You Need to Survive." "They have kitten heels, cleavage, and they don't cut their hair short." Johnson, 38 and pregnant for the first time, hopes to follow the Prada-lined path blazed by sultry moms such as Uma Thurman. "You're handing your body and your life over to your baby, but you don't have to hand your style over to your baby."
Minivan-spurning matriarchs abound in recent pop culture. Stifler's mom (Jennifer Coolidge) proved quite the seductress in the "American Pie" movies. Stacy's mom (model Rachel Hunter) had it going on, complete with red bikini, in 2003's Fountains of Wayne video. The character of Regina George's mom in last year's "Mean Girls" ("SNL's" Amy Poehler) flaunted her breast implants from beneath her figure-hugging tracksuit.
But perhaps the epitome of the mildly naughty nurturer is "Desperate Housewives' " Susan Mayer (Teri Hatcher), who readily puts her svelte self on display. Indeed, Hatcher, 40, a single mom herself, coyly poses for the February covers of Harper's Bazaar (in a dress that dips below the waist) and laddie magazine FHM (in plunging lingerie). She even made Mr. Blackwell's best-dressed list for 2004.
Credit "Desperate Housewives" for fixing the spotlight on come-hither clothing for the post-lactating set. The look came into stark and sparkly view on last week's Golden Globes stage, when Hatcher and her largely fortysomething co-stars, including fellow mom Felicity Huffman in a cleavage-hoisting sheath, outshone some of their younger Hollywood colleagues.
"If we are inspiring women to push the edge of the envelope a little bit ... how fabulous is that?" says the show's costume designer, Cate Adair, herself a mom.
But the show also is reflecting recent cultural changes. "We were in a different place five years ago," Adair says. "Some of the rules have started to get broken." So as low-rise jeans have become the norm, as people have stopped blinking at the sight of a bare belly, the image of a mom in a miniskirt and lip gloss simply seems less scandalous.
Flinging off asexual armor
Historically, though, motherhood has been about "not looking like you're on the market," Johnson says. The net effect was to go from being "a Camaro to a Volvo." Consider Erin Brockovich. "One of the reasons everybody found her so shocking was that she was a mom wearing a push-up bra and a baby on her hip, which seemed like an inappropriate accessory," Johnson says. The message? "Women can have it all, but they can't dress like they have it all."
So standard mom clothes serve as a kind of asexual armor. Of course, mom-as-siren and mom-as-schlump occupy two extremes of the style spectrum; the majority of moms breeze from the shopping center to the schoolyard looking perfectly respectable.
Now, though, "mom style" is no oxymoron in part because it's so much easier to achieve, for both women in the workplace and those who stay home. For moms accustomed to spending money mostly on their kids, fashion has become affordable and accessible as mass-market retailers such as Target offer a little edge. And for those who need outside help, there's the forthcoming book "Frumpy to Foxy in 15 Minutes Flat: Style Advice for Every Woman," which devotes a chapter to rescuing mousy moms from their unhip selves.
The shrinking generation gap, including the fact that moms increasingly gravitate toward their daughters' closets and jewelry boxes, is "one of the biggest changes in consumer behavior in the past five years," says Marshal Cohen of the NPD Group, a market research firm. These women "cross over. They're interested in current styles, not styles specific to an age. They don't want to dress in their mothers' housedresses anymore.
"Clothing and style does not discriminate according to age like it used to," Cohen says.
The gym, plastic surgery
Take Michelle Card, who strode through Tampa International Airport recently wearing a deep tan and an even deeper V-neck shirt. With her long blond layers, French pedicure and low-slung jeans, Card, 33, "looks more like a teenager," concludes one of her two sons, Matthew, 10.
A lot of her friends seem similarly more suited to sit in a high school class, not teach one. "They don't want to look older just because they're moms," says Card, an executive at a nonprofit organization in Hernando Beach, Fla. "They don't want to let it go." Among the tools of this single mom's maintenance routine? Microdermabrasion, facials and trips to the gym.
In the past, the extra 15 pounds that pregnancy padded on just "wouldn't budge," says Sue Fleming, a personal trainer and author of the new "Buff Moms: The Complete Guide to Fitness for All Mothers." (The cover features a woman with a baby in one hand, a dumbbell in the other.) Fleming helps her mom clients drop the weight in as little as six months. "They look great," Fleming says. "They don't have to have that 'I've had babies now I've lost my body' mentality."
Some moms take a more permanent approach to body sculpting. In the past year, Laurie Casas, a plastic surgeon in suburban Glenview, Ill., performed around 70 percent of her surgical operations (a quarter of which were breast augmentations) on mothers with children under the age of 18; 90 percent of her nonsurgical procedures, including Botox injections, fillers and skin peels, were done on that same group. Though Casas has had maternal patients for 15 years, what has changed in the past five is that moms no longer wince at the thought of spending thousands on themselves.
"I haven't seen the guilt. I see the 'I deserve this,' " says Casas, who also is the national spokeswoman for the American Society for Aesthetic Plastic Surgery. "It's not an entitlement but almost a feeling of 'I'm worth it, I'm important enough.' "
"Hello, sexy"
"There's a lot of competitive mommyhood right now," says Jane Buckingham, author of "The Modern Girl's Guide to Life." "We're all trying to look the best we can, even if we have spit-up on our shoulder." Buckingham, 36, a mother of two who splits her time between Beverly Hills and Manhattan, concedes that on days when her cute clothes linger in the laundry and her not-yet-showered hair is in a ponytail, she's "too embarrassed" to walk inside her son's preschool to drop him off. So she lets him out in the alley.
Linda Elton, 44, started working out with Fleming last August, nearly three months after giving birth to twin girls. "I don't think you have to stop living just because you become a mother," says Elton, a marketing consultant who lives in Babylon, N.Y. She still gets her hair cut and colored every four weeks. And she still plans to buy a motorcycle someday.
Meanwhile, she's tooling her twins around in a "beautiful" champagne Lincoln Navigator, even though her own mom was nudging her toward the more vanilla Honda Odyssey. Elton's reaction? "You're talking to somebody who had three Corvettes and then an Audi, and now you want to put me in a minivan?"
"I just felt, 'I'm too cool for a van,' " she says.
Ask Katie Rowand of Ashburn, Va., to envision a mom, and she sees a woman who's polished but prim, sporting "a khaki, button-down jacket and a bob haircut. Maybe some bangs, maybe a headband." And maybe behind the wheel of a Volvo station wagon. Rowand's typical outfit, on the other hand, is a pair of Seven jeans and a snug top, anchored by pointy flats or heels. Her car is a Land Rover. And Rowand, who's about to turn 28, has a 5-month-old daughter.
"I'm still young enough that I shouldn't be in a bar with a turtleneck on, you know?"
Sometimes, though, situations do call for comfort over, say, cleavage. During last weekend's nor'easter, Slatest hunkered down, in her sweats and bare face. As she cooked dinner, her husband, Steve, wrapped his arms around her and cooed, "Hello, sexy."
"I laughed and said, 'You've got to be kidding — or else really hungry.' He said no, I'm sexy all the time."

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Oh.....I was thinking the same exact thing as I read that.
PumpkinAngel
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I don't think you could even know if women are sporting makeup unless you asked them. Some of it is very good these days (like real (house) paint!) and you shouldn't be able to notice. It's called the natural look. (FYI bright blue eyeshadow is out!)
Make-up is sold in grocery stores, for goodness sake. So, it's a little more common than you would think.
You certainly can't be sure your kind so outnumbers people like PNJ. And you can't take it a step further and say these women allegedly not wearing makeup are thinking ill of her kind either. You can read minds? You're really reaching here.
Do you seriously not think you are a tad snobbish? lol
We associate with people in ALL income brackets from very very low to very very high. People are people when it comes down to it. Some are nice and some are not. There are some who make 6 figures and think that defines them - and they are snobs, then there are some who make 6 figures who have more substance and are quite comfortable with people who have less than they. When you treat people as equals there is less unfriendliness. I suspect that it is not those in the lower income brackets who are being unfriendly - not everyone will be coveting your material possessions lol, however if you look down your nose at them (which this post most certainly has a ring of), they may not be so kind.
Nick
I think there is a difference between applying makeup to enhance one's appearance or at least that perception of enhancing in 10 minutes a day.....and surgery in boob job, lipo etc or injections...don't you?
PumpkinAngel
I would love to hear how many of these women berating pnj color their hair or get mani/pedi's. I bet quite a few. But of course that probably has nothing to do with wanting to look good for the outside world?
All I wear every day is lipstick, the max factor that only comes off with a loofah (which I don't even bother with at night so I end up with some still on come morning). I am as low-maintenence as they come but I rarely leave the house without lipstick. I guess that puts me in the shallow chippie camp.
I can't for the life of me think of one time I have seen a woman with make-up on and said "wow, how inappropriate is THAT?" Nor have I seen a woman without make-up on and said "wow, how inappropriate is THAT?" You put makeup on my mother and she becomes the circus clown that terrifies your dreams. You see my MIL without makeup and she becomes the same circus clown. Some people look better with make-up, and if it makes someone feel good who the heck should care. This righteousness is cracking me up. It is make-up for crips sake.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
<<1. Makeup is an evil marketing trick, propagated on us by an artificial cultural norm. >> Its the "requirement" that is artificially created. You don't need it here, male or female, in order to fit in, just about anywhere. The ads are for those who would like to use it, but any insinuation that you need to use it to fit into our society, is false. You do need to manage your body odour. The ads are for everyone and quite frankly, please take them seriously. I mean you don't need *their* product. You do need someone's. In my husbands homeland, women do need makeup in order to look like they fit in, just about everywhere. Noone worries much about body odour, management of that is really totally optional.
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To be taken seriously one should not be judging a person's suitability for a situation by their presence or absense of makeup.
<<2. If you're confident and secure, you don't need makeup.>>
Absolutely true. Anywhere. Its even true about deodorant.
<<3. Many people are natural beauties, >>
Not all that many. More people are good looking. Most are just average.
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Its never necessary. On the natural beauties of course its not necessary.
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Depends upon your tastes. There are alot of people who just don't like the makeup look. On anyone. It definitely can detract from some peoples natural appearance, no matter how "well" its applied and what they start with by default.
Maybe "not bad," but could look better. What makes you think you're right, and I'm wrong?
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