Article: Why the debate is irrelevant

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Article: Why the debate is irrelevant
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Mon, 02-08-2010 - 6:04pm

http://www.helium.com/items/1303907-stay-at-home-moms-vs-working-moms

Your thoughts? Do you ever wonder whether the reason why the debates always turn into much-too-literal conversations about things like lasagna is because there isn't really anything substantive to debate about SAH vs WOH?















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Registered: 12-01-2009
Thu, 02-18-2010 - 9:52am
oh did I mention how guilty I feel every other week when she lives with her dad? LOL
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Registered: 02-24-2009
Thu, 02-18-2010 - 9:53am
LOL, my poor child would be so bored, as well as probably pretty boring, if she mostly spent time only with me.

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You can do the work of the mind without your hands,
but not that of the hand without your mind.

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Registered: 04-22-2009
Thu, 02-18-2010 - 9:53am

The youngest years were easiest for us too. No, kids don't come self-sufficient but those first 5 years pass by in a flash.

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Registered: 04-22-2009
Thu, 02-18-2010 - 10:03am

jennflg insecure???? ROFLOL!!!!

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Registered: 04-22-2009
Thu, 02-18-2010 - 10:06am
I've 18+ years of woh while raising kids.
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Registered: 05-06-2007
Thu, 02-18-2010 - 10:08am

Mine too!

DD was off of school all last week due to the weather. I also took off work due to the weather and DS was/is sick, so we spent every.minute.together. Finally Wed night she asked if she could PUH-LEEZE go to her afterschool care place because she missed her friends and she was tired of just playing and doing stuff with me. That stung a little.

But oh yes, the guilt! Oh it's soooo bad!

Melissa

Wife to Erik

Mommy to McKenna (1.30.03)

&

Braxton (10.29.09)

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Registered: 04-22-2009
Thu, 02-18-2010 - 10:08am

So, WHAT difference does woh vs. sah make? REALLY, what should I be looking for in my kids OR what should you be looking for in yours????


Good parenting is good parenting. Doesn't matter one whit whether you sah or woh.

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Thu, 02-18-2010 - 10:10am

"Then again, good motherhood easily transcends work status, lol!" Yes, this was the conclusion I reached years ago from observing all the various parents I knew (which were many at the time, preschool and early elementary years). There is good parenting and there is bad parenting. Good parents seem to manage to parent well whether they work or not, and bad parents seem to manage to parent badly whether they work or not.

The only way child care would be at all relevant, as far as I can see, is in the instances where the parenting is really bad. In those cases, child care would presumably be a plus for the child.

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You can do the work of the mind without your hands,
but not that of the hand without your mind.

Danish proverb

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Thu, 02-18-2010 - 10:12am

Twice, actually. Once, as a minor when my Dad was assigned there (he was a civilian working for the DoD) and then again when I was stationed there with the Army.

Lived in Zweibruecken the first time and was stationed in Katterbach (just outside Ansbach) the second.

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Thu, 02-18-2010 - 10:15am
Yes, after I posted I remember is was twice, as a child and as active duty.

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