attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 11-11-2005
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 4:28pm

"And no one on this thread has argued that BM contaminated with PCP or crack, for example, is superior to formula, so where are all the "militant BF'ers" you were addressing?"

There are quite a few in this thread.

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Can you link to even one post where someone claimed that drug laced breast milk is betetr than formula. I think you were told that drug laced breastmilk is better than drug laced formula. '

Also, where do you live that "most" breastfeeding moms are not drug free?

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Tue, 08-22-2006 - 4:39pm
Did you forget the wink icon?

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Tue, 08-22-2006 - 4:47pm
I am an expecting first time mother. I don't know a lot about parenting so I may be speaking out of my butt here.
I think that it is weird to encourage a child to sleep with the parents. I can understand a sick toddler or a child wh had a bad dream, but all the time? When are they to old? And if you don't discipline your child how will they know who is the head of the household and how do you enforce rules? I have always heard that good habits are learned early. If you don't teach them early on how to behave and what is expceted of them, what is to keep them frm growing up to be a spoiled brat?
Like I said I am new at the parenting thing, and I don't wish to hurt anyones feelings or offend anyone. I was recently called a negligent paent by one of the other members because I am keeping my dog after the baby is born, so I know how infuriating it can be to have someone question your parenting methods but at the same time aren't there boundries?
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Registered: 01-23-2006
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 5:05pm
My son never sucked his thumb, and as hard as I tried to see if it would soothe him those few weeks he was colicky, he wanted nothing to do with a pacifier. He's not attached to anything but Mommy (and grandpa, cause he's just a HUGE grandpa's boy).
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Tue, 08-22-2006 - 5:12pm
Hahaaa! I heard a story one time about a woman from Ireland who was 109 years old. A student from a nearby univeristy went to interview her, because she was still incredibly vital and active, and asked her how she has stayed alove and healthy for so long. Her response? "A shot of whiskey every morning and dancing every night".
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Registered: 01-23-2006
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 5:14pm
Wow! Someone really called you a negligent parent for keeping your dog after the baby is born? Guess that means I'm in the same boat as you, as are, I'm sure, many other mothers on this board.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 5:37pm
Why would I be looking to be offended? I will say it again. I NURSED my children. To clear up your confusion, using the term chaos was to summarize what the person was implying. I think you are downplaying the slam that was very apparent.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 5:38pm
Yikes! I don't admire somebody who won't give a child a minute's peace and makes them always be engaged in some parent-directed activity. She may have clucked her tongue at you for lazing the afternoon away at a kiddie pool, but I think in the long run you will have a more balanced child because of that approach.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 5:40pm

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I feel sorry for those breastfed babies that were separated from their mothers for days and even weeks during Hurrican Katrina.

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Registered: 04-22-2003
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 8:09pm
But being attached to that part of her body isn't the reality. You've got to admit that it could be helpful to have a "magic potion" at the ready should your child need immediate comfort. Don't know if you saw my post about my son and his recovery from surgery - when he was coming out of anesthesia (sp? I'm too lazy to look it up right now, lol) they were going to tie his arms and legs down because of the effects, but I asked if I could nurse instead. I was so thankful at that moment that I had the ability to do that, rather than to give him a blanket and tie his hands down.
Kerry with Campbell Elizabeth 11.03.06 and Benjamin Brady 12.10.03

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