attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 8:11pm
Are you saying that you could not have calmed him down without nursing or tying him down?
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Tue, 08-22-2006 - 8:14pm

"Why would you rather your child be emotionally attached to a part of your anatomy? This I don't get. I can see nourishing your child with BM but for them to be emotionally attached to a part of your body seems a little bit unhealthy."

You brought up the question of what I would rather have - attachment to my via nursing or a pacifier/bear/blanket/etc. I was answering you.

Don't know when I said that FF babies are not attached to their mothers.

And you know what? DS was more attached to me at the beginning. Big whoop. He's equally attached to us both now (in fact, I am only online right now because DS just asked Daddy to read him a book and turned Mommy down). Neither of us have jealousy issues towards each other with regard to our son.

Kerry with Campbell Elizabeth 11.03.06 and Benjamin Brady 12.10.03
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Registered: 04-22-2003
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 8:21pm

Have you seen an almost 2 year old come out of general anesthesia? It's not pretty. They thrash. They fall. They hit. They kick, they pull at their ears and eyes and their IV. They require either someone very strong holding them, or in some cases to be tied down.

Yes, I am saying that there is NO WAY my son would have calmed down in less than 2 minutes when he came out of it without the calming influence of my nursing.

Kerry with Campbell Elizabeth 11.03.06 and Benjamin Brady 12.10.03
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Tue, 08-22-2006 - 8:24pm

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No I didn't ask you that. You must have me confused with someone else.

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No you didn't say that directly but perhaps you could explain your statement here:

Shouldn't a baby be attached to his/her mother rather than an inanimate object? I don't see it as unhealthy.

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Well that worked for you. Both of our children were just as attached to their dad as they were me when they were babies. They knew that mommy was the one that was going to feed them but they were easily comforted by myself or my DH.

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Neither do we. I was just happy that my DH could be just as much of a comfort as myself when our children were babies. I could actually get some things done without having to be the one the baby wanted all the time.

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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 6:51am
Are you saying that New Orleans is a slum? They were dealing with the aftermath of a natural disaster.
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Registered: 05-09-2006
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 6:52am

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As disappointing as I'm sure that must be, there *are* worse tragedies in the world.

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Registered: 06-09-2006
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 6:55am

"Can you link to even one post where someone claimed that drug laced breast milk is betetr than formula. I think you were told that drug laced breastmilk is better than drug laced formula."

Can you link me to one post where it is said that *some* BM is superior to formula? It is implied that all BM is better than formula.

"Also, where do you live that "most" breastfeeding moms are not drug free?"

Did I say that I live in a neighborhood where most breastfeeding moms are not drug free?

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Registered: 06-09-2006
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 6:59am
Exactly. They were probably given a bottle of formula. Oh my, the horror!
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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 7:01am
That did work well to your advantage in that situation. But, at what age is it inappropriate to still have a child emotionally attached to your breast?
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Registered: 06-09-2006
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 7:03am
That was my question.

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