attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 7:26am
Those people you are describing (except the ones on medications) should not be mothers anyway. Youa re talking about a small percentage of women.


Edited 8/23/2006 7:37 am ET by debbiemom2girls
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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 7:30am

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Simply put, yes.

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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 7:59am

"Did I say that I live in a neighborhood where most breastfeeding moms are not drug free?"

You said something like, "Come on down to the slums, and you'll sing a different tune," after saying, "Some breast milk is better than formula"--in the context of a discussion about how many women are not "conscientious" and use crack and PCP.

Yes, it did imply you had IRL, BTDT experience in an impoverished, drug-infested neighborhood.

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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 8:27am

"Yes it did imply you had IRL, BTDT experience in an impoverished, drug-infested neighborhood."

Yes, I do have IRL, BTDT experience in those neighborhoods but that doesn't have to mean that I live in them, does it?

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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 9:42am
The Astrodome is in Houston, not New Orleans. Once the refugees were in Houston at the Astrodome, there was plenty of formula there for formula fed babies donated by many, many different people, and many, many different hospitals. There were many infants seperated from their mothers' during Hurricane Katrina, what, do you suppose, were they fed during that seperation? *GASP*...FORMULA!!!! Had it not been for formula, these babies were have starved to death.
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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 9:54am

I think you are spot on!

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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 10:30am

Yes, I'm aware that you nursed your children for a year, but never comfort nursed. I'm also aware that you used the word chaos to summarize. It didn't appear to me that the person was implying chaos - just stating what she saw. From my perspective, having nursed one and FF one, I think her report of the situation was probably pretty accurate.

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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 10:39am

My youngest brother had surgery as a toddler, and this is exactly how my mother described it. They didn't tie him, but it took two people to hold him down.

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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 10:41am
No, not at all. It's a very sweet experience for a child, one that it's a shame to miss. To me, saying that nursing is for food only is like saying that sex is for procreation only. There's a whole 'nother dimension that it's a shame to miss.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 10:57am

This raises another touchy subject in the world of breast feeding discussions.

Women who are rapidly losing weight while breast feeding release toxins stored in their fatty tissue. (The kind of toxins that build up over time from chemicals found on our food, like pesticides and herbicides, which concentrate at the top of the food chain, and from environmental exposure.) Those toxins go into the breast milk. Milk from mothers who are not losing weight (from fat storage) rapidly does not contain as many toxins as that from mothers who are losing fat rapidly (but yes, they still release them.) I'd have to think that the toxins released would also depend on how concentrated the toxins are in the fatty tissue of the mother (an older mother might have more than a younger mother, a mother who consumes more food that are the source of toxins might have more than someone who eats a more organic diet, a mother with a higher environmental exposure to chemicals might have more.)

Despite the fact that the toxins are released in breast milk and that the level of toxins are increasing in women, experts agree that breast milk is superior to formula. (That should give you an idea of how experts regard breast milk.)

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