attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 10-31-2005
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 4:02pm

The number of illegal drug abusers who are mothers to babies is probably under 1%--the total number of illegal drug abusers (over the age of 14, I believe) is 6%. Cut that in half to rule out males, and we get about 3%. Only a fraction of that number would include mothers of babies.

http://www.mapinc.org/drugnews/v01/n1740/a05.html

We should add HIV positive mothers to the list of those who should formula feed, though. Even adding these, and any other mothers with communicable diseases who should not breastfeed, will not get us to your statement, "Some breast milk is better than formula."

And I'm going to revise my statement of "Most breast milk is better than formula" to "Almost all breast milk is better than formula."

Now, I'm almost militant! :)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 4:18pm

Absolutely! Raising my DD was much more stressful, because if she wigged out, I had 3-4 options, but I couldn't be sure which one was going to hit the mark at that moment. With DS, I had those 3-4 options, but I also had nursing, which would *always* solve it.

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 4:28pm
What insults? I am not the one calling most mothers in Brooklyn and the Bronx drug abusers!
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Registered: 11-18-2005
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 4:29pm
I agree. I just doubt a drug addicted mother would really care about it.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 4:41pm

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That statement is being just a bit dramatic dontcha think?

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Why is that amazing? Why is it so hard to believe that I didn't have to nurse my children to calm them down? That it didn't take me any longer to calm them with other methods than it took me to pop my bra open?

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I could care less if my child wants to be attached to a blanket, pillow, or doll. Why does that matter? You are ok with your child being attached to your breast but not a doll? Why is that? Again it doesn't have to be an either or.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 4:43pm
Why are you impressed? Nothing to be impressed about. My children just responded to what they knew as comforting.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 4:45pm

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Huh? What are you talking about?

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Registered: 06-02-2006
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 5:09pm
Excellent analogy!
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Registered: 06-09-2006
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 7:26pm

"Now, I'm almost militant! :)"

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Registered: 06-09-2006
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 7:29pm

That you are "intelligent enough"......

From personal experience I can say that there's alot of drug abusing women in alot of neighborhoods in those boroughs.

It's disheartening.

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