attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 08-16-2006
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 11:00am
YES!! Her exact words were "anyone who would risk the life of their infant because they trust their dog is a negligent parent" The funny thing is I never even asked about my dog, she just looked on my profile and saw I was pregnant and had a dog, and then started telling me that I should get rid of it before the baby is born, because of the breed , but guess what.... I rescued that dog from an abusive family when she was very young, almost 7 years ago, and she loves everybody. Kids, elderly,anyone she comes in contact is a new friend, and she isn't going anywhere.
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Registered: 01-23-2006
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 11:48am
Don't let anyone convince you that keeping you dog makes you a negligent parent, that's the most absurd thing I have ever heard! I have a pomeranian that I had for 5 years before having my son, who has always been skittish aroung kids. One of my nurses the night I had my son told my parents to take the very first hat and shirt that was put on him, and put it in Bear's cage with him, that way he would get used to his smell. The day we came home from the hospital my dog was so interested in him. It got to the point that when my son would cry from the other room, my dog would run to me and pace back and forth until I did something. Now that my son is almost two, they're inseperable, my son loves my dog, and my dog is WAY protective of my son and can't get enough of him! That lady was probably someone that hates dogs and has no clue why they're called "man's best friend".
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 12:09pm

Yes, between this post and Suzymomm's "human pacifier" comment --- I'm personally not comfortable with being that intimate and indispensable to my children, even when they are infants.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 12:10pm
How can you say that your kids experienced everything mine did? Mine experienced comfort nursing. Yours evidently did not. You can't have it both ways, logically. You can't experience something you didn't experience.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 12:14pm
I didn't say I "pitied" or "felt sorry for" her children. That's a little strong. I said I was sorry and I thought it was a shame...sort of like I would feel it's a shame if say, kids never got a chance to swim in the ocean because Mom was afraid of water. They'll be fine, but it's kinda/sorta too bad they missed a cool experience.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 12:18pm
Honestly, I don't believe that God intended that there be tumors or AIDS when he created mankind. But that's probably another debate for another board.
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Registered: 08-16-2006
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 12:19pm
Thank you, and I will do the thing with the clothes that sounds like a great idea.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 12:22pm
I've never known any kid, breastfed or bottlefed, who could always be comforted within ten seconds of starting to cry. That's really impressive. Almost incredible, really.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 12:42pm
my babies could.........that's why i sah.

 

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 12:51pm
I'm not sure I understand. You stayed at home because your babies (and toddlers?) never cried for more than ten seconds? Does that mean you would have found a job if they cried for fifteen seconds?

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