attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 04-22-2003
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 1:00pm

My take...

If I gave formula to my son, I would do so knowing full well that I'm not giving him the best "food" for him at the time.

When I give my son fast food (usually only on long car trips) it is also with the understanding that I am not giving him the best food for him at the time.

I see it as the same thing.

Kerry with Campbell Elizabeth 11.03.06 and Benjamin Brady 12.10.03
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Registered: 04-22-2003
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 1:00pm
It takes a really long time for that to happen.
Kerry with Campbell Elizabeth 11.03.06 and Benjamin Brady 12.10.03
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Registered: 03-23-2003
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 1:08pm

Oh, please...it's all one and the same. You're not just sad...on the inside...for you. You are actively sad ON THEIR BEHALF.

Like I said. Blech.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 1:10pm
Why does that throw you for a loop? I am aware that popping a breast in a child's mouth will get them to be quiet, why is it so difficult to believe that other methods work just as quickly?
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Thu, 08-24-2006 - 1:14pm

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Not at all. Isn't God the Creator of this world? Either you believe that 1) God created all things, whether they personally benefit us or not, or 2) He Goofed big-time.

Me, I go with Creator of All Things. AIDS is just a virus. It's a life form, just like all other life forms. I tend to believe that God knew what He was doing when he created this world. I'm sure there are people and religions that take a different view. Then again, there are a lot of religions that center more around Man than God.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 1:18pm

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Um I believe I said MY children experienced everything YOUR children did WHILE nursing. Again the only difference between what you did and what I did was you nursed when they weren't hungry. I didn't. Other than that so what?

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So are you saying that my children didn't experience everything your children experienced while nursing?

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 1:22pm
Please tell me that you arent saying your kids never cried for more than 10 seconds?
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Thu, 08-24-2006 - 1:33pm

There are more than just the two options of "1)God created all things whether they personally benefit us or not or 2)He Goofed big-time".

You forgot all about another option between God goofing and God creating everything. That other option is God creating a Universe with certain rules and, eventually, life forms and humans creating quite a lot of things.

Take tumors and AIDS. I think it's quite possible to blame both on humans. While not every form of cancer is enviromental, I believe we have altered the enviroment to the extent that we get tumours far more often than we would if we had not invented mutagenic chemicals and ways of pumping lots of radioactive material out into the world. God created atoms but we created nuclear reactors. Therefore tumors can be blamed on us, not God, even if radiation and mutagenic chemicals wouldn't be possible without His atoms to split or recombine.

And AIDS? It's not a virus, it's a disease. The disease is called Acquired Immune Deficency Syndrome. It is caused by the HIV virus, a virus that caused no disease in humans until we chopped down enough monkey wild habitat, and captured/killed enough monkeys, to ensure that it jumped from the monkey population in Africa into our own. So AIDS- the disease- is our fault for not leaving monkeys alone and exposing ourselves to a virus they carried that, even if created by God, had caused no disease in humans (thus there was no AIDS) until we came rampaging into their habitat.

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Thu, 08-24-2006 - 1:45pm
You know, you usually are an insightful person, but your insight into what I think and feel is a little off here. There's a difference, in my mind, between active pity and mild regret. Yeah, I wish every baby could have the experience. But a lot don't and I don't waste my time sighing over their plight.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 1:49pm
There's a place between your 1) and your 2)...God created all things, and he intended them to be used in certain ways, but over time, mankind has misused his Gifts to the extent that thing are developing in a way that is contrary to God's original plan for mankind. Because he has given us the ability and free will to use his gifts wisely or to reject his plans, he does not step in and rescue us from our own mistakes and therefore allows mutations and developments that he never intended when he created the world.

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