attachment parenting
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| Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm |
A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):
"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.
Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."
What do you all think of attachment parenting?
I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?
I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.
If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?
josee

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If your babies fell asleep while they were nursing you nursed them to sleep. You evidently didn't nurse them to sleep all the time. Hardly anybody does.
I'm guessing that your babies, like most babies, when they nursed, were also comforted by the sound of your heartbeat, your closeness, your smell, the warmth of your body, the eye contact, the pleasant sensations of being near you. It's all part of the package for infants.
I have 4 children. ALL of them slept with us till they stoped nursing at night. Heck my 8 month old is still sleeping with us half the time. And we have two dogs so I dont see why someone would call you a negligent parent for that. (heck we have great danes so we must be horiable parents...LOL)
I belive that each parent has to do what they feel is right for themselves. However on the subject of Co-Sleeping. If you decide to co sleep please remember a few rules. If either you or your husband are hard sleepers, dont co sleep, if you drink even one drink please dont co sleep, if you or your husband take sleeping pills please dont co sleep. I do know personaly one person who has smoothered their 4 day old infant while sleeping. It happends.
Co sleeping isnt for everyone. We do it because it works for my husband and myself and we make sure that it is a safe enviorment.
Well to be honest I don't know anyone that didn't have a baby fall asleep while nursing at some point. I don't think I have ever met someone that woke their child after nursing then laid them down.
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Yes they did. They also got all of this without nursing.
As I said - because I've never seen it happen. I'm not saying it's not true, I'm saying I'm impressed. I'm not being sarcastic, I've just truly never seen someone capable of calming an upset child in 10 seconds every time without nursing.
Were you uncomfortable with carrying them in your uterus for nine months (some might say that was an intimate and indispensable relationship) or having them come out your vagina (also part of an intimate and indispensable relationship)?
Don't really get your attitude at all.
"Firstly, I hope that everything is okay, considering you spent awhile in the ER."
Yes, thank you. It wouldn't have been so long except apparently only one doctor was working. DH is doing fine--but since two people where he works have had heart trouble in the last two weeks he wasn't taking any chances with his symptoms. It's the first (and hopefully last) time I've experienced an emergency room.
"Secondly, do you mean a bottle of orange soda??? OMG"
Yes, but I wonder if the mom forgot a more healthy drink in her rush to get to the hospital. The vending machines did have water, but her baby (about a year old, I think) was miserable and I suspect she was willing to try anything.
"And lastly, did you have your eyes attuned to the parents of that child that drank from the same bottle for 6 hours?"
Pretty much. It was a boring waiting room, and only DS got any sleep of the three of us. The only reason I noticed was because it was a huge bottle and the baby was only a couple of months old, and I was surprised since DS still won't drink more than 4 oz. of liquid in a sippy cup and he's over a year old.
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