attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 06-09-2006
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 7:55am

"Clearly you don't understand BF'ng."

Thankfully, I have you to tell me that.

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Registered: 06-09-2006
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 7:56am
Watch it. Your eyes are going to get stuck like that! You seem to have a habit of posting with the eye rolls each time.
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Registered: 06-09-2006
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 7:58am
Were there American studies done, as this one is Canadian. Also, anything more recent than 1992? That's 14 years ago.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 10:14am

Quite the reverse -- my experiences with my infants were the reasons I didn't enjoy that stage much.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 10:25am

I am wondering whether your experiences with infants could have been different had you adopted different practices and attitudes and thus, the infant years would have been more enjoyable for you.

I tend to over-research, I know, but going into parenting (or just about everything else), my habit is to visualize/articulate the outcome that I desire, and then do the research and adopt the practices that will allow me the best chance of achieving that outcome. One of my desired outcomes going into the neonatal stage was to minimize the chance of a caesarean delivery and/or post-partum depression, to meet the developmental needs of the baby, and to find a way to fit the baby into my existing life -- which was pretty good at the time. Attachment parenting practices seemed to be the key to that, for me. I'm overusing the phrase, but I do think it's a shame that you had two such miserable years.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 11:15am

Are Canadians not capable of producing a study to your satisfaction?




Edited 8/25/2006 11:16 am ET by mommy2amani
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Fri, 08-25-2006 - 11:30am

You think that MOST mothers in slums are drug users? That's astoundingly ill-informed. While rates of hospitalization and death for drug abuse is substantially higher in (for example) East New York than it is in the population generally, it would have to be 10-20 times higher for "most" mothers to be drug users. It's actually about 1.5 to 2 times higher.

http://www.nyc.gov/html/doh/downloads/pdf/data/2000nhp-brooklynh.pdf#search=%22percentage%20drug%20abusers%20%22east%20new%20york%22%22

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Registered: 06-09-2006
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 11:30am
I would rather read an American study, yes, on American products.
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Registered: 06-09-2006
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 11:34am

"You think that MOST mothers in slums are drug users? That's astoundingly ill-informed. While rates of hospitalization and death for drug abuse is substantially higher in (for example) East New York than it is in the population generally, it would have to be 10-20 times higher for "most" mothers to be drug users. It's actually about 1.5 to 2 times higher."

Not, most. Alot of them are. You can't say that my experience is ill-informed. Come out of your cushy office in Manhattan and take a subway ride.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 11:52am

Go grab your favorite box / can / bottle of formula and *read* the ingredients.
And these were American products if you *read* the article.
I'm sure there are more recent studies. Try google and I'm sure you'll find them.

MM

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