attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 12:24pm
Canada, and others, have declared WM's so much to be avoided that they'll pay women not to do it. I'm sure they do lip service to the other side too but the fact they'll pay women to SAH tells me where their beliefs lie.
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Registered: 08-02-2006
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 12:24pm
I would love to know where all the money is for me since I am a SAHM... The Gov't must have missed me... Seriously, where did you get an idea like that. I don't get any extra money from the gov't that Working parents don't get.
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Registered: 01-06-2006
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 12:25pm
Yes it is. It's related to what you control for and what studies can compare to other studies. You can't just assume that research done in the UK would have turned out the same if it had been done in the US. It's valid all right but for the society it was done in. And yes, peers across the world will analyze the methods but that's all that applies across the board.
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Registered: 08-02-2006
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 12:33pm
So if your theory is true about beliefs and making a difference in studies then I certainly wouldn't want to be in an American study since I am a SAHM and they view us as evil... Since not helping out SAHM's shows that they think its wrong for a mom to give up a career. So I am evil for being at home with my babies.. Cool!! Your attitude is pretty negative. There are a lot of Working moms in Canada doing well. There are also SAHM's too doing well. Atleast we have an even spread and our gov't cares weather we persue WOH or SAH.. So for you to generalize and make things up that Canadians actually think WM's are evil you need some serious counciling...
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Registered: 08-05-2004
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 12:34pm

So why do women only get 1 year of leave? Why not 5? 16? 18? Why not pay them to stay home their entire life. To suggest a year of maternity leave it to keep away from the working world is absolutely ridiculous, and the strangest statement I've heard.

Have you read the 'optional' part of my posts? or are you just blinded by your own bias against SAH and prejudices against canada?

Canada has over 30mil people. Lets assume that half are women (15mil) and half of those are moms with kids at home (7.5mil). So there are 7.5 million women being forced out of working so that they can stay at home?

Thats a very sad assumption on your part.

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Registered: 08-05-2004
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 12:39pm
I would also love to know where the money is. I have a 4 month old and I do not receive any maternity pay. I am working 1/3 time what I used to, in order to bring in some money and help out. Where's all my pay to be an oppressed stay at home mom?
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Registered: 08-27-2005
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 12:39pm

If it's a sociological study that involves only people from a particular country, naturally the results are going to only be applicable to that country. If it's a biological study involving, say, the behaviour of a particular IFAP protein during the cell cycle in a Chinese Hamster Ovary cell line, it really doesn't matter a scrap whether the research was conducted in the U.K., the U.S. or Timbuktoo...as long as internationally recognized protocols were followed. Since the study in question involved the components of formula, I can't for the life of me understand how the results of the study could possibly be influenced by the location (again, assuming that internationally recognized protocols were followed).

I see that you didn't choose to address my last paragraph.....

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Registered: 08-02-2006
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 12:39pm
Yes Men and women can take the Mat leave. Actually you both can be off for 6 months together or one can be off for 3 months the other for 9 or the woman can take all 12 months or the man can take all 12 months its totally up to the family to make that call:) So its not all about the Moms it gives men the benifit of staying at home with the child too! So I guess that really blows KB's theory out of the water that we are all about SAHM's... It does include the dads if they want it or can afford it, since you do get a pay cut.. You don't get your full wage being off...
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Registered: 08-05-2004
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 12:44pm

"I see that you didn't choose to address my last paragraph....."

I've posted a few times that this was all optional and she hasn't addressed that either. Its almost as if she sees what she wants and will ignore facts that might poke holes in her very strange theories.

I've been holding back posting to threads of topics that i might offer any insight or debate on. But now this has gone too far. She's clearly biased against SAH, and now Canada. I dont know if she thinks we're inferior, but to describe canada as opressing Working moms is ridicilous. I can't be a part of a board with such prejudices... Why would I want to subject myself to her superiority complex?

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 12:48pm
Well, the really weird thing is that Sweden offers families 1.5 years of parental leave and yet approximately 90% of all mothers WOH. Where she gets this idea that countries who offer parental leave are totally against mothers WOH is simply beyond me. As far as the Swedish government is concerned, the more WOHMs the merrier....just means more taxes paid to the government.

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