attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 08-05-2004
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 12:57pm

"Well, the really weird thing is that Sweden offers families 1.5 years of parental leave and yet approximately 90% of all mothers WOH. Where she gets this idea that countries who offer parental leave are totally against mothers WOH is simply beyond me. As far as the Swedish government is concerned, the more WOHMs the merrier....just means more taxes paid to the government."

Sounds divine! :)
I'm actually swedish myself. My Grandfather was born there.

I think these countries that offer great parental leave are just more elightened in regards to how families operate now a days. The majority of women i know are working moms. I know of only 2 who are SAH after the kids went to school, but they do not sit on their butts. One does the books for her husbands company (hes contract as well) and he 'pays' her to do that, and in the end he gets a tax write off for that. So they save lots of money by doing things that way.

I'm just frustrated at the narrow view of canadian life. Ever since hearing Ann Coulter say on live US tv that canada should feel lucky the US lets us exist. :S

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 1:00pm
Personaly if I had been offered a year to a year and a half of maternity leave paid I would have taken in and probably gone back to work afterwards. I think its a great idea and its too bad that we dont have it here. I belive that here they really dont place any value on familys and the work that it takes to care for them.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 1:04pm
No, a majority of women in "those" neighborhoods are not drug users. You backpedaled to "many" the first time I showed that.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 1:19pm
Oh nice. My DH is a US Marshal.
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Registered: 05-14-2006
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 1:25pm

I am curious how countries with long parental leaves handle multiple close pregnancies.

For example what happens if a mother gets pregnant and delivers a child while she is already on paternal leave for a previous delivery.

Or who gets pregnant while on leave and delivers a couple of months after returning to work. Does the 18 months start all over again?

Would it be possible to have several close together children and literally take paternal leave for years and years?

Are there limits to how often or how many times someone can take paternity leave?

(I would also be interested answers to these question from Canadians, or any other country with long maternity leaves).

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 1:27pm

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I don't know about majority, but did you watch Primetime the other night? It was an hour long segment they had been working on for quite some time. It was about how horrifically AIDS is becoming in the black community. The segment did say that black females are 23 times more likely than white females to contracts the AIDS virus. This was more from drug use than sexual activity. It was a quite interesting segment. It was amazing that many of our political leaders didn't know just how bad it is, and it was even more shocking that none of the self proclaimed leaders (ie Jesse Jackson, Al Sharpton) never mention this in their travels. Very sad indeed.

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Registered: 06-09-2006
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 1:34pm
Okay. It's senseless to argue with a person who wants to appear politically correct.
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Registered: 06-09-2006
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 1:37pm
How long has he been a marshall? Does he count the days until retirement? LOL
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 1:49pm
He has been there almost 13 years. No he loves it. He is in California now working on some electronic stuff for tracking. ??????? Ya got me on that one. LOL!
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Registered: 08-02-2006
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 1:51pm
hahaha.. The gov't forgot to pay you too for staying at home... If the gov't wanted all SAHM to stay at home and not work they would make Mat leave available for ppl that are on contract or own their own business too.. But you don't get mat leave if you are contract or own your own business so I guess the gov't has another evil plan...

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